UGH! Dating questions!
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| Tue, 09-30-2008 - 10:45pm |
Ok, will try to make this as short as possible and appologize in advance if I get winded:
I transfered from one shop to another where it's me and half a dozen guys. Not a problem. I have equipment that I work on exclusively...it's my job to maintain it. Problem: one of the drivers asked me out on a date...I went...I liked...I stayed at his place for the weekend...(ok, accidentally got a little too drunk and didn't want to drink and drive)
We chatted at work a little and got together again two weeks later.
No one at work knows we are dating so that we don't get teased.
We've had sex (sorry, didn't wait). The problem is I can't tell if he's interested in just a sexual relationship or is more serious. He calls me "baby" but hasn't said anything about us getting together again for another date. When we are together but not at work, he's physically affectionate...holding hands and little pecks in public, rubbing my leg while we were sitting on the couch talking with his brother, etc. When we are at work, we are just two people talking...no touching of any sort...not even close contact.
He knows I have many male friends and is ok with it. He doesn't like the fact that one of his bosses may also have a crush on me (this seems to be his only pet-peeve), but as no one at work knows we are dating, his boss doesn't know I'm off-limits. I don't know of anyone else he's currently seeing, and have told him that I'm not seeing anyone else (don't have the time!) We do both like that we can enjoy doing things together, but also have lives away from each other.
We have started talking even more after this last weekend (called him Saturday, he called me Monday, I called him tonight after work).
The more I write this, the more I think he wants more than just a sex partner, but then why not the talk about when we can get together again?
(BTW...he's a totally giving person! The only thing we've argued about so far was my paying him back for some things I threw in the shopping basket that he paid for...I insisted on paying for stuff I didn't even ask him to buy!)
Any input? Any questions? Any magic mirrors like on Romper Room? (LOL, sorry, had to throw that one in)
Kristy

Um... how about you talk to him? Ask him what he's looking for and let him know what you're looking for.
Just be straight with what YOU are looking for and don't agree to anything less in the hopes that he'll change his mind once he gets to know you better.