Ugh MEN

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Registered: 03-10-2008
Ugh MEN
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Tue, 06-17-2008 - 1:55pm

As I have said before I have had a on again relationship with a guy who is a big drinker. This was why I have kept the relationship casual. I just can not date someone who NEEDS to drink daily. Anyhow we talk dailey and text dailey. I get a text from him saying he was checking in with probation...yes he is on probation! For a DUI. Then I do not hear from him for a couple days which is odd odd odd. So my instinct is...He is in jail for probation violation why else would he not call or text right? Well guess what...HE IS IN JAIL for PROBATION VIOLATION! I got that lovely collect call from the jail!


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Registered: 05-11-2003
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 2:04pm

I am so sorry that the man you have feelings for has a drinking problem.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2008
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 2:15pm
Oh yeah he has done rehab...IOP....the whole nine yards and when it is all said and done he drinks. I can deal with it on the level we are on because it will never be a serious realtionship due to the drinking. It just makes me mad and angry at times!
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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 3:13pm

"It just makes me mad and angry at times! "


Wouldn't that mean then that he's costing you more than it's worth to be friends with him?


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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 4:23pm

So my understanding that alcoholism is a disease so to be mad at someone who has a disease does not make sense to me.


I am not blaming you for your anger for I would be as well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2008
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 4:55pm
I guess I am just mad he doesn't want help for his disease...he would get treatment if it were ED! or Diabetes or something else you know what I mean? ugh
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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: cutefont
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 6:31pm

I can relate to getting mad... especially about the desease excuse... my ex used the same thing... and i agree with you.... a normal person gets treatment for his desease... he doesn't just make excuses and expect