Ugh, Why do men have to ruin it? lol

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Ugh, Why do men have to ruin it? lol
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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 12:22pm
Ok, Maybe Im being too picky, but it SO TOTALLY turns me off when someone throws in that they are cuddly, like kissing, etc. & worse? SEXY! Ewww. - I answered this guys ad on CL. He seemed pretty normal & intelligent in his ad. He sent a photo & he was decent looking. He's a bit over my regular age, I would prefer under 52, if not under 48! But what the heck, Lawn Boy was 54. Anyway - his 2nd email to me said this:

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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 12:31pm

"I have two

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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 12:34pm
ewww...the "cuddly" part totally ruined it for me LOL NEXT makes me think of this jacka$$ i dated for a few years. Came from a really irish catholic family (9 Boys - no girls) and scumbag used to visit his parents quite a bit...he told me how when he went to see the "P's" (i hated when he called them that by the way) he would lay in bed with his mom and watch TV...under the blankets...he was 36 at the time....FREAK...LOL That was definately one of those "what were you thinking" relationships...so glad i made it out of that one. LOL
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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 12:51pm

when he went to see the "P's" (i hated when he called them that by the way) he would lay in bed with his mom and watch TV...under the blankets...he was 36 at the time...


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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 1:31pm

I don't give much credence to the online laundry list of qualities that people post. Those are just words and 99% of the time, people don't really know themselves well enough. "Sexy" means different things to different people as well as "romantic" and "mature" .. blah, blah, blah.

I also would give the guy a pass on his grammar and the "cuddly" part but then again I don't have any experience in dating men from online like you Rebecca.

I remember how women here have posted on how they have quickly judged their partners when they first "met," either online or in person and now they are a couple so keep that in mind.

For me when I was looking, I would give women a lot of profile leeway because most people don't know how to present themselves online AND they don't really know themselves to do so in the first place. It's all in the chemistry for me and the interests should not be too incompatible (e.g. 4 wheeling and spectator sports are so not my thing).

I can screen for the interests but not for the chemistry. I need to do a meet (or two or at least kiss) in order to determine that.

Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 2:31pm

Awwwww at least he tried. I understand how fustrating it can be trying to put your individual personality into words. I draw a blank when its time for me to describe myself and use words or phrases that aren't me... but I have to say that:


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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 2:54pm

EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!


Totally, 100% agree.

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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 3:02pm
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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 3:17pm
LOL yeah and he told me i had intimacy problems...LOL YEAH OK MOMMAS BOY....ROFLMAO
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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 3:23pm
LOL yeah and he told me i had intimacy problems...LOL YEAH OK MOMMAS BOY....ROFLMAO



Jeez...if that isn't the pot calling the kettle black, I don't know what is!

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Mon, 12-22-2008 - 3:34pm

See, the way I look at that is he's trying to tell you what you want to hear. Like thinking oh all the ladies love cuddly and kissy so let me make sure to fit that in there somewhere. I would next him just for the pathetic attempt to sell himself.


My POF prof details exactly what I want out of a relationship, and what I think it should be. Its typical me rambling on and on.. but I think it speaks as to what kind of person I am for sure! lol.


Also.. so funny I will next someone for bad grammar also. However, I am not the queen of grammar.. but simple things like there and their urk the hell out of me haha. Oh.. and saying u instead of you.. ugg thats only for long winded text msg's when you're running out of room! haha.


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