UNCOMFORTABLE!!!

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Registered: 03-10-2008
UNCOMFORTABLE!!!
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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 6:24pm

Ok so I had a WONDERFUL third date with PT. But here is the issue or problem, I noticed the last two dates about 4 hours into the date he started to smell funny. He is very clean. I can tell that he showers and even puts on cologne. So I am not sure how to handle it. I mean we are not doing anything crazy active wise for him to start smelling. And he is a great guy...I hate to NEXT him over the smell issue but I am not yet comfortable enough to say anything and not sure HOW To say something or what to say! Maybe he doesn't know? Maybe he skimped and got cheap deodorant? Maybe he needs that clinical strength stuff. I do not know! What I do know is if we keep going out eventually it will lead to hugging and kissing and that will be a major problem if he smells funny. UGH ACK! Its not terrible but noticable...and I am not one to be able to ignore it!


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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: cutefont
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 8:44pm
That is a tough one.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: cutefont
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 10:53pm
Ouch. I wouldnt know either. I wish i had some sort of advice!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: cutefont
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 9:23am

I don't know. I guess if he had everything I wanted in a person and was into me, I would bring it up in conversation face to face. Maybe he doesn't wear deodorant? But he would start?

I had a friend from the UK who was brilliant at bringing up whatever was on her mind straight up. And most people really loved that trait about her - you felt like she would always tell you what was on her mind. She would say things in a really funny way with her dry British humor. So maybe you could approach it that way.

It just seems to me, after reading all the dating drama we have everywhere - of trying to find someone we like who likes us - if you get this far, and it is something as simple as putting on deodorant - it is surely worth a try - you have nothing to lose to speak what is on your mind. I guess the trick is the timing and to try to keep it positive and not act like it is that big of a deal. Easier said than done, right?

Keep us posted! And who knows, maybe someone here will have an even better idea than me - that happens all the time around here! This board is a wealth of knowledge!!