Unusual Invitation

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Unusual Invitation
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Thu, 11-29-2007 - 10:48am

So, I met SEV's parents on Thanksgiving.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 11:01am
Just my two cents but sounds to me like they are hoping by trying to include you they can use you to bring him back into the fold.
 
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 12:07pm

I agree with soccermom... i sense manipulation. If I were you, I'd stay out of the middle. Listen attentively but don't offer your opinion too much either way... They are still his parents so he could still be offended if you agree with him and say something bad... Or if you say something positive he could think you are taking their side.... Complicated.

The best thing to do is NOT to gossip. And don't take on the offense as your own offense. The abuse didn't happen to you so don't own his feelings on that issue. That's never a good thing... and another reason why gossip is such a bad thing.

Loonybunny

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 12:14pm

My spiritual practice is compassion.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 12:30pm

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 12:33pm

You can borrow that ANYTIME!

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 12:38pm

Oh trust me - I'm staying out!

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 3:52pm

Hey Moon,


I echo everything already said, and actually I posted some additional thoughts but guess what...the gremlin's back and when I tried to post, nothing happened. Something wierd is goin' on! Here's the abbreviated version I wrote earlier..


~Pacific~
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 7:53pm

Yay for you guys! I totally agree with what everyone has said. And I love it that SEV and you are on the same page about this. I love it that you've talked about it, and it is NOT going to interfere with what you have, or the lives you have going. Sounds like SEV is VERY MUCH healed from his past, and is able to handle things just fine! Setting boundaries and sticking to them, even if his parents are clueless about just where those boundaries are. He just lets it come and go... and doesn't let any of it stick. Way to go for SEV!!!!


~shrimpy

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"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 3:57pm

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 4:11pm

Hey Shrimpy.

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