I agree with soccermom... i sense manipulation. If I were you, I'd stay out of the middle. Listen attentively but don't offer your opinion too much either way... They are still his parents so he could still be offended if you agree with him and say something bad... Or if you say something positive he could think you are taking their side.... Complicated.
The best thing to do is NOT to gossip. And don't take on the offense as your own offense. The abuse didn't happen to you so don't own his feelings on that issue. That's never a good thing... and another reason why gossip is such a bad thing.
I echo everything already said, and actually I posted some additional thoughts but guess what...the gremlin's back and when I tried to post, nothing happened. Something wierd is goin' on! Here's the abbreviated version I wrote earlier..
Yay for you guys! I totally agree with what everyone has said. And I love it that SEV and you are on the same page about this. I love it that you've talked about it, and it is NOT going to interfere with what you have, or the lives you have going. Sounds like SEV is VERY MUCH healed from his past, and is able to handle things just fine! Setting boundaries and sticking to them, even if his parents are clueless about just where those boundaries are. He just lets it come and go... and doesn't let any of it stick. Way to go for SEV!!!!
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I agree with soccermom... i sense manipulation. If I were you, I'd stay out of the middle. Listen attentively but don't offer your opinion too much either way... They are still his parents so he could still be offended if you agree with him and say something bad... Or if you say something positive he could think you are taking their side.... Complicated.
The best thing to do is NOT to gossip. And don't take on the offense as your own offense. The abuse didn't happen to you so don't own his feelings on that issue. That's never a good thing... and another reason why gossip is such a bad thing.
Loonybunny
My spiritual practice is compassion.
You can borrow that ANYTIME!
Oh trust me - I'm staying out!
Hey Moon,
I echo everything already said, and actually I posted some additional thoughts but guess what...the gremlin's back and when I tried to post, nothing happened. Something wierd is goin' on! Here's the abbreviated version I wrote earlier..
Yay for you guys! I totally agree with what everyone has said. And I love it that SEV and you are on the same page about this. I love it that you've talked about it, and it is NOT going to interfere with what you have, or the lives you have going. Sounds like SEV is VERY MUCH healed from his past, and is able to handle things just fine! Setting boundaries and sticking to them, even if his parents are clueless about just where those boundaries are. He just lets it come and go... and doesn't let any of it stick. Way to go for SEV!!!!
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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