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| Mon, 05-07-2007 - 1:41pm |
Whew... lots of posts for me to read from the last week or two. Lots of new folks too. I’ve been swamped with finals projects (staying up til 4am day after day to work while D3 slept). Then M decided to treat me to some much needed R&R (well he needed it too, he’s been traveling a ton for work) by making a run down to Mexico this weekend. It was sooo nice. We were a little worried it’d be crazy with the holiday, but Cinco de Mayo is apparently a gringo thing. They don’t make a big deal about it in Mexico. The weather was fabulous, about 70 degrees and a light breeze, partly cloudy. Perfect weather to get sunburned, which of course, we are.
The condo complex was mostly full with owners doing work on their units so it was like a block party on the beach all weekend, they all know each other. M was introducing me to everyone, some were unaware he’d gotten divorced so that was sometimes a bit awkward. We just hung out on the beach, didn’t even bother to take out the sailboat. Spent a lot of time just talking-about our kids, our summer plans, us in general.
I am more comfortable with the whole concept that M thinks I’m “the one”. Talking about the future in terms of us together doesn’t freak me out anymore. I know he doesn’t intend for us to be any more serious than we are right now any time soon, it’s just what he hopes will eventually come to be.
M did tell me he’s got his girls back in counseling to work on the issue that I do exist in his life. He wants them to be comfortable with the idea that his time with them may overlap with time he spends with me. Mostly, he just wants to be able to have us all spend time on a long weekend at the same place and not have the girls freaking out. He’s got no intention of having a revolving door of women in their lives, he figures it’s just one woman-me. And I have no intention of being around them a lot, but it shouldn’t be a crises if we occasionally have a cookout together or run into one another at the Safeway. And this is coming from M, not me. I am not pushing for any kind of relationship with his girls. Their counselor is the same one my kids went to so she knows me pretty well. I hope she has some good ideas for M and his girls. This issue is a big hurdle for all of us single parents and it seems there is no one size fits all kind of advice. My kids are totally OK with having M over for dinner occasionally, and with going skiing or to Mexico with him along. It was a bit rough for S18 when I first started dating but now he’s fine with it. Someone did observe we're one short of the Brady Bunch, LOL, but I don't see us ever really blending our families that way. My boys are nearly grown and his D14 is entering HS in the fall. Anyone with a good BTDT story on reluctant kids eventually coming around and accepting that Mom/Dad have a life chime in.
Well, I’ve got a couple weeks off before school starts again, but I’ll be just as busy with S18’s graduation and work on my house. Back to cleaning up the house after S18 has been home alone for a weekend.

Mexico sounds lovely! I hope your finals projects went well. It sounds to me like you are not only on the right track - but a very good one indeed!! I like that M thinks you are the one but how you are staying the same for now. I also like how he is addressing the issue of his girls seeing you two together and putting them in counseling.
Keep us posted. These are all issues that hopefully we will all be lucky enough to deal with, too.
Happy Cinco de Mayo!