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| Thu, 01-05-2006 - 2:36pm |
My dd had her tonsils out on the 29th on an outpatient basis. Other than being in pain, she was ok. The first night was the roughest, but then everything was ok -- until Monday night. She started bleeding a little, then it stopped; then it started again and stopped again. I didn't worry too much because the same thing happened to me when I had my tonsils out 4 years ago. Unfortunately, as the evening wore on, she started bleeding again, and it wouldn't stop. I called her doctor, and he said to go to the ER. So, to the ER we went. She was crying and upset and didn't want to go, but by then, she was spitting up quite a lot of blood. She ended up going back into surgery about 1:00 a.m. Tuesday morning. I guess what happened is a scab fell out and instead of healing over, a blood clot formed so it couldn't heal, and that is why she would not stop bleeding. She had to spend the night in the hospital, but I was able to stay with her. Her brother went back to school today, but she can't go back until Monday. I was off last Thursday (the day of the 1st surgery) and Friday and also Tuesday and Wednesday. I had to go back to work, so she is at her dad's house today and tomorrow with her stepmom. I just talked to her, and she said she feels great (no pain). I'm amazed that her dad stepped up, which is good, because I was really in a bind: new job = no vacation time; so that really helped me out. It's killing me that she has to be gone because we have spent so much time together this week; but it will be Friday before you know it.
When I got to work today I got an e-mail from my office manager saying she wanted to see me asap. Oh boy, I thought I was getting fired. My boss is a nice guy, but the reason he let my predecessor go was because she was absent a lot. I thought, this is it, I'm getting fired. As it turned out, that wasn't it at all. We are moving to another building in 2 weeks, and my office manager was working on the new seating chart. She is changing my assignment. I'm getting someone who is "difficult" to work for and has not gotten along with any of the secretaries assigned to him. But she said that she knows I can get along with anyone and that I am an excellent secretary, and she thinks it will work out. I'm not sure whether to be happy or sad, but I guess I'll give it a try. I am so grateful to have this job that I really don't want to make any waves.
Another thing I am grateful for is that I think I have learned from past mistakes. There is this guy who lives in my neighborhood and is an acquaintance with one of my old babysitters. Especially during the time that I was off over the holidays, he has come over a lot and called me a lot. He has made it very clear that he wants us to be a couple -- here's the good part -- I have made it very clear that I do not want that. He said he'd wait for me to change my mind -- I said it was never going to change -- not today, not tomorrow, not ever. He is a very nice guy, and he has money, he keeps offering to buy me things. I have no interest in this man for one simple reason: he's 40 something, never been married and has no kids. Good God, I did that three times, and I'm not about to do it again -- period. He has eased up -- I think he's finally getting the message. I hate to be mean, but I just can't do it.
About a month ago, I had two dates for a Friday night. Jeff, a single dad whom I've been friends with for about a year, finally had a night where we both didn't have our kids, but, I turned him down. He asked me about this weekend, my kids are supposed to be with their dad, but because of Katie's illness, she will be with me, so I guess no date. We just can't seem to get together, but that's ok with me. He's a good friend, and I'm ok with it staying that way. In fact, I think dating might ruin our friendship -- you never know.
I said yes to (believe it or not) I guy I met on E-Harmony. About a month and a half ago I said that I getting tired of that whole scene, and I was going to end my subscription, which I since have. Ther was one match that was open, meaning that we were at the e-mail stage, and much to my surprise, he e-mailed me. I e-mailed back, and for about a week we e-mailed each other. Then we exchanged phone numbers, and since then we talk just about every day. When I talked to him the first time, I felt like I had known him for a long time. Conversation comes easy between us. One time we talked for 4 1/2 hours on the phone. He has a son, but he lives with his mom. His son is his life; you can just tell by talking to him, and he seems like a great dad. It's so different talking to a man with kids as opposed to a man without (like the three previous guys that I dated). We have since gone out a couple of times. He came over on New Years Eve and he brought me roses (gotta like a guy who brings flowers). He seems very into me -- probably more into me than I am into him right now. It's not that there isn't an attraction -- there is, it's just that I'm not in any particular hurry to rush into anything. We live an hour away from each other, and I'm fine with that. That gives me my space. He gets his son every other weekend; and my kids go by their dad's every other weekend, so we see each other on our free weekends, which also is ok with me. For both of us, our kids come first, and that's a good thing. So, there's not a lot to tell. He is very much a gentleman, which gives me peace of mind. I like the pace things are moving at. He isn't pressuring me about anything, which is great. At the very least, we are developing a good friendship.
Donna

Wow, you are doing an awesome job of setting boundaries and intentially living your life the way you want to.
Marvelous - your head is in a very good place. I like what you write here.
I am sorry to hear about the huge inconvenience and pain your DD had to go through with the tonsils - but hopefully she can get better soon now. It is lucky that your exh stepped in to help you.
Good luck with the new position at work. I hope you manage your new boss well!! It sounds like they have a lot of faith in you.
Good things come to those who wait. Keep us posted!!
Donna,
Sorry about the tonsil drama, I know it can be scary enough just to have them out, let alone have complications!