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| Mon, 09-13-2004 - 4:08pm |
I had an idea about the situation with my mom. I think on a Saturday when I don't have the kids, I'll take my mom out to lunch, just the two of us, and talk to her about it. I have a feeling my dad is pushing this because he's convinced when he dies he'll go to hell if his family isn't talking to each other. So, I'd like to hear what mom wants. After talking to her, I'll decide what to do. Between now and then, I'm not going to make myself nuts about it and I'm not going to get pressured into anything.
I wanted to tell you about my date Saturday night. Paul called me Friday night to get my address, and I was having a bad migraine. He told me he'd call me Saturday afternoon to check on me. I had another bad headache in the morning. By the afternoon it was better, but I wasn't feeling 100 percent. I was going to chicken out. He told me I needed to get out of my house that I was stuck in for 2 days, so he talked me into not cancelling. After he picked me up, we stayed at my house for a short time. I hate the way my house looks right now, and I don't like having people over for that reason. Then we drove to his house, which is fairly close. He built a deck that goes around his whole house except for the very front. His yard is really large and full of trees, and it looks like you are looking out into a forest preserve. Even though we both live in suburbs of Chicago, my house is in a suburb that has city-size lots, so my yard is as big as a postage stamp. We sat out on his deck for about an hour, then we went to dinner. After dinner we drove downtown and walked along the lake front. It was an unseasonably warm night in Chicago, and the weather was perfect. I had a very nice time, and I'd go out with him again, if he asked me. Other than my health concerns, I was concerned about how we would get along because he's 13 years older than me. Age didn't seem to matter too much because we never stopped talking. We have both had some bad relationships in the past, and I think we are both a little gun shy and guarded right now. He told me he was really nervous because he hadn't had an "official date" in a while. I thought that was cute. He told me that a month ago his sister had a psychic party (those are big in Chicago) where this psychic told him he was going to me a woman that was 5'4", had brown hair and was an Irish Catholic (I'm all of the above). I thought that was really funny. LOL. So, I had a good weekend except for the headaches. Hope everyone's weekend was good, too.
Donna

Sorry about the migraines! I personally haven't had the pleasure of experiencing them, but my mother was plague with them for a time. They were brought on by a lot of stress, sound familiar? I would suggest trying to take it easy, I know easier said than done.
I think it's a good idea to talk to your mom about her wishes. Even if she says that she wants all the family together and being civil, I don't think you should over commit yourself to it. Once a month is sufficient. I think the point is to spend the time with your mom too, so going over and just being with her would mean a lot.
Now your date sounds nice! I'm glad you were able to have a good time, headache and all. I hope that the two of you can have some nice times together.
Alison
Hi Donna
So sorry to hear about your migraine trouble.
He sounds really nice!! I am glad you made it through the migraines and got out of the house.
Keep us posted - this is so much fun!!
Well, as long as you asked, date number two is Saturday. Paul called last night, and he thought I had my kids this weekend. Normally I would, but my ex switched weekends with me, so I'm free again. I guess date number one must not have been too bad if he wants to go on date number two. LOL
Donna
Do you every go through the "I don't know what to wear" syndrome? OMG - I am horrible at that - try on about 40 outfits and then try to decide - do this every time.
Going on a date can make you feel 16 again!! Keep us posted - did he say where you are going???
Ewww. Migranes SUCK. I have them rarely, but when I do it's all I can do to have J help me stumble to bed, put a heating pad on my head (seems to help a LOT) and then a pillow over all to keep light out and let me pass out for a few hours. They're a nightmare and I am sorry you're getting them. Has anything changed for you in your diet to suggest why you might be getting them? Anything you can think of?
I am SO glad your date went ok in spite of your concerns, and glad he knows that you're primarily looking for a little companionship. What a nice time you must have had. And his house/yard sounded fabulous! I love big porches like that. A great yard/sitting area outside will sell me on any house before even the inside!
I think you have a good plan for talking to your mom w/out dad to see how she really feels. Maybe it'll be easier to make a decision once you KNOW it's all about her and no one else.
Good sign indeed!
As for where we are going, I suggested that we go downtown again to a restaurant that I have been to before because I think he will really like it. My boss did all the business, food and liquor license work for this restaurant, and when it opened, my boss was invited to an open-house kind of thing. He was going to be out of town, so he gave the invitation to me. It's called Elephant & Castle Pub, and that's exactly what it looks like inside, an English pub. They have the most beautiful hand-carved wood bar that's as long as the whole restaurant, and the first thing you see when you walk in is this massive bar. I thought Paul would like it because he does woodworking. He makes custom bars, cabinets and fireplace mantles. I've seen some of his work; it's beautiful. I thought he might appreciate the decor of the place, plus they have real good food. And hopefully this weekend will be as nice as last weekend, and we can walk around downtown and by the lake. Because God knows, in another month here in Chicago, it will be 30 degrees downtown, and I won't want to be walking around down by the lake then. That's the plan. I just have to get through the rest of the work week. UGHHHH.
Donna
Have fun on your date!
Alison