update about court.......
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| Sat, 07-15-2006 - 1:34pm |
Well went to court yesterday, my mom went with me and no I didn't get a lawyer because it was an injunction hearing,no big deal, or so I thought. He on the other hand went ahead and brought his mom, sister, cousin, cousin's g/f, and his g/f and his attorney. So I felt like afish out of water. I called my friend right before we went in and bawled my eyes out because I was so scared. the lawyer offered me a settlement and it was regular visitations, child support of 150 a week, my offer, and me get custody and the injunction only be in affect for 30 days. I was like sure seeing how he had a lawyer and I didn't.
So, they did a continuance, and the temp injunction was legal for 1 week. I have to sign a petition for paternity that James is going to file and I have to sign the stipulations, his mom wants me to sign that and I wont get to see anything else but one piece of paper out of a 60 page report.
Well........ I went and got an attorney. My friends paid for it and I'm gonna start helping them out a lot more now, with the kids and running around and stuff for them. Anyways my lawyer is goinbg to file a motion for continuance that way I can keep my injunction, and the best part is...... the evening of the gun shots.... happened in front of my lawyers house, so.... ha ha.... I have more proof and my lawyer will call witnesses. thought I'd update hopefully things will get better soon...
and this guy I'm maybe pregnant too.... we're joking with him asking him about how he'dlike to be a dad and when would he like it and ...... I dunno.... LOL

Well, I'm glad you got a lawyer to help you, especially since they want you to sign something with only reading one page of a 60 page report!
As for the guy you may be pregant with, I wouldn't *Joke* about things with him.
I am glad you got a lawyer - that is much needed in your case. This is your first priority - I wish you luck - keep us posted!!
With regards to your pregnancy - as Alison said - make SURE before you tell the guy. Did you do another test?
I am sure it seems overwhelming at best right now - but once you get your custody and visitation sorted out you can work out the rest.
Well I couldn't tell him. I wanted him to know so he could at least think about the options, so it wouldn't hit him too hard. Anyways my friends husband told him like this Hey there's gonna be alittle and what his last name is. He kinda laughed and said nah uh. When he left with my friends husband he said bye see you in a couple of years to my friend, all laughing and such. All they told him was I had missed my period by 2 weeks now and my friends husband said that doesn't mean anything. But I said my boobs hurt and they never do and I did have a faint pregnancy test well 2 were really faint. I have slight cramping but I have it everyday at the same time for 2 weeks now. I'm tired and I'm a little scared with everything going on. I have to get my IUD removed regardless whther I am or not because you cant sexually active with different partners with an IUD there's too much of an increased risk for STD's and PID.
I think I am pregnant and I'm ok with it, but this guy just broke the news to my friends that he wqants to move to Georgia. He's real nice. I mean I was sound asleep the other night on the couch and I haven't talked to him in 2 weeks now and he woke me up and said hey I know you aren't comfortable why dont you go get in the bed and I told him no because my son was in the livingroom and he wasn'tfeeling well, he said well I'll stay out here, and I dont know.
He'll call soon I'm about sure of it because I know he's thinking about it and he's probably thinking oh gosh what have I gotten myself into.
My ex's mother called and asked to see the kids well of course I didn'tanswer the phone but I did listen to the message and laughed because she's a lot of the problem. Hopefully things look up and hopefully I can give y'all good news soon rather than a lot of venting.
Okay - it does sound like you are pregnant - but I still think you should wait another week and then confirm with a PG test - and I guess the good thing about that is that you have time.
But for now you have to sort out the custody/court thing with your exh at all costs. I am glad you didn't answer the phone to his mother. Listen to your lawyer and keep your friends with you and you will get through it.
I love Alison's advice to keep quiet in court and let your exh blab and get his own self in trouble because it sounds like he will do just that.
Don't worry - all of this will sort itself out.
As for that guy - you will just have to wait and see what he wants to do. Are you saying he will move away to GA? Just give him space and keep us posted, okay?
HUGS!!
Ok, at this point, I think you owe it to him to be honest that you think you're pregnant so that EVERYONE else doesn't *know* except him.
well he does know and he hasn't called yet since he left yesterday/ My really good guy friend said I should call him but then again, my friend ( wants to be more than a friend ) and he wants his own kids so... he's like a one in a million type guys but he's not my type. He's a little jealous right now and wants the best for me but kinda wishes it would've been him, you know..... anyways he said call him and ask how he feels about the whole situation.
What's your advice, call him and ask how he feels because he wants to move to georgia because I guess his brother just moved up there or wait for him to think it over and call me? I didn't get a good reply when I told him about it...... so...... I guess I'm just not used to letting a guy have their space in this area.
You need to call him to set up a meeting face to face.
I decided even though it may not be the best, I do not believe in abortion, and I will keep the baby. I know this guy is a lot different than my ex and he will take care of a baby. I was reading you can be pregnant every month on an IUD but your body doesn't allow for implantation so you can abort every month. The reason my pregnancy tests may stillcome up negative could be becaus the ovum floated around until it implanted and that the hormone would not be relased until later than usual. It is a possibility as well for some women not to have detectable hcg levels, uncommon but common, confusing I know...
Also I was there when my friends husband told him. It wasn't quite face to face but we were there. I figured I'll give him some time to think it over, and he knows there could be a possibility that I maynot be. But as of right now, I highly doubt it. I went on another website and it was a forum of women who had gotten pregnant on the IUD and a lot of them had the same batch number and were given the IUD within 3 months of me. So...maybe we could've gotten a bad batch or maybe it slipped.
I'm not stressed like I was and I'm pretty relaxed and have so far gotten use to the idea of being pregnant.