Update about this Weekend

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Update about this Weekend
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 5:27pm
Well, I went out with my grilfriends on Friday to the bar that crush's band was playing at. I am good friends with 2 of the other members in the band, and their wives, which is how I met crush. (Not sure I mentioned that before.) Anyway, he was busy playing, I was busy dancing and having a GREAT time with my friends, and I looked amazing! Did you ever have one of those days when you just knew you looked great? That was me on Friday.
So, I didn't ignore him, but I get so nervous around him, I feel like I'm 15 and a tongue-tied school-girl again. Ugh, it's frustrating! In a pleasing way, kind of. It's been a long time since I've felt like this. At the end of the night, we chatted for quite a while, and went our seperate ways. It was pleasant, but not awe-inspiring.
He said he hoped he's be able to make it out on Saturday, but he didn't show, so who knows? Now I'm arguing with myself over whether or not to email him... that's our typical method of communication, and I haven't yet, but I want to. I don't even know what I'd say.
I probably wouldn't even bother if it weren't for the fact that I caught him watching me dance all night, he told a few of my friends he was interested in me, and he's told me (in emails) that he likes me. Why does he have to be so shy? Why do I?? One of us is going to have to get over it, and it looks like at least this time it might have to be me.
So, ladies, what do you think? Should I contact him first, or not? I'm leaning heavily toward a simple email, but I don't want to appear to be throwing myself at him. On the other hand, he has flirted and thrown out some invitations. Help!!

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 7:20pm

Give him a chance and sit on your hands for right now.

It is great that you looked so great and had such a good time. I have a good feeling about this one!

Maybe your friends can help this process?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Mon, 02-27-2006 - 9:23pm
I agree with Judy, to wait and let him come to you.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 9:40am
Doesn't dating make you feel like you are back in High School again? It's a mix of complete confusion and fun! Things sound like they went well. Just wait for him to chase you. I know it is hard, but I am willing to bet that you will hear from him. Keep us posted!
Stephanie
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Registered: 02-08-2006
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 2:29pm
Thanks, everyone, for replying! I haven't contacted him, and have decided not to, to mixed reviews among my friends. I have one girlfriend whose husband is very close to crush, and she says I should go for it, call him, and ask him out. Another friend (whose advice about men I'm not sure I trust, but she does know me very well) says to wait, so I'll wait, at least for a while. Things are pretty busy right now in the rest of my life, so it isn't like I'm sitting around waiting for him to call. We'll see what happens. Since I am interested, and I get the vibe from him that he's also interested, something's bound to happen eventually. I just have to keep reminding myself that patience is a virtue!

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