Update and Thank You!

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Update and Thank You!
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:18am

Good morning, ladies!

Well, an update to all regarding my previous post about whether I was being too harsh with that guy.

We went out on Friday night. It was fine. That's it. Just fine.

He really, really likes me. That's bad. I told him several times that I just don't feel the way he does. He didn't seem to care, because I think he hopes that will change with time.

The thing is, I don't think my feelings will change (at least not in a positive way - he might annoy me so much it becomes a bad situation) and I believe it was Moody who said it, and I agree, that if I continue to see him, even as friends, he will read into that and think he has a shot.

He is nice and very easy to talk to, but mainly because I don't care what he thinks so I feel very comfortable saying whatever is on my mind! That is not cool.

Thank you all for your input! It really helps clear things up for me and pretty much confirms what the truth of the matter is. While I might have been dealing with some guilt issues about how to be a fabulous mom and balance that with dating, I don't think that is the issue here. The issue is that I really don't like him very much! As a friend, okay, but certainly not romantically and so I need to cut the cord completely or he is going to have hope.

So, that is my next mission. Cutting the cord! Wish me luck!

Thanks so much again! You are all so caring and helpful!!!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 10:26am

Well at least you know for sure. I would say that for your own sanity and his that you two should not see each other any more.

I have an old friend from grade school. We dated about 20 years ago and he really liked me but I ended up not liking him. And you know what? His feelings have not changed and we really can't do anything together now because of that.

So it really is something you have to deal with that won't go away right away!!

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 11:22am
Good luck. Cutting the cord sounds like the right plan. He will try to guilt you into staying friends. Make a clean break. Like West said, this guy's feelings won't ever change. He'll forever be trying to get you to change your opinion of him. This will annoy you more and more and only end up hurting him.