Update on EMT and the cruise with his Ex

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Update on EMT and the cruise with his Ex
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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 7:29am

I had a long talk with EMT about the cruise. He decided that it wasnt right for him to go on a cruise with his ex if he was in a serious relationship. I told him that if he went I would back out and wouldnt continue to see him. I will overlook him going to the baseball game with the other woman but draw the line at him going on a vacation with his ex. I also told him that if he had asked me if I minded if he went to the ball game with 'Leslie' instead of with a 'friend' that my answer would have been different. Call me sexist, but I assumed that when he said he was going to the game with a 'friend' it was a male friend.

So far I am still seeing him although my feelings are a bit hurt and I am not sure where I want this to go anyhow.

Laurie

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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 8:43am
I don't blame you one bit!!
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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 11:46am
I am sooo glad you got that out in the open!! I am so proud of you because I know how difficult that must have been. I too would feel very hurt. What was his explanation regarding the "Leslie" thing and why he kept it kind of secretive, regarding the sex of the friend?? Does he see you being a priority now and that he really is in a serious relationship worth keeping??? I hope your conversation with him, slapped him back to reality.
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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 12:56pm

I'm really glad you said something. He seriously needed a reality check. Did he used to get away with that crazy stuff with other girlfriends? Its nuts!


Sounds like he values you enough to admit it was a bad idea. If you want to continue with him I'd give him props for coming your way on this hope that he sees the light from here on out. Vacations with other women..a nono...lol!

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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 4:42pm

I think the talk made him see just how serious I am. I told him that I would have felt different if I had known that his friend was a woman and that I would walk if he took a vacation with his ex. He understood.

Laurie

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Thu, 10-02-2008 - 10:54pm
Good. Glad the air is cleared. He needed that.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sat, 10-04-2008 - 3:03pm
I am glad you got it out there. He needed to know and now he'll think things through a little more.
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