Update - I talked to my bf last night

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Update - I talked to my bf last night
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Wed, 06-18-2008 - 9:03am

And found out what was bothering him.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 06-18-2008 - 9:45am

I'm glad you guys had a chance to talk. Now that it's been laid out on the table, hopefully he won't act that way anymore because you've talked about it, and you'd reassured him that he doesn't need to feel insecure about you and your ex.


I know I always tell people not to gripe to a BF/GF about the ex... but I think that once you are in a relationship that you hope will go somewhere, it's sometimes good to let some of the stories out. Just share enough so the other person will KNOW that you feel strongly about the ex being AN EX and not going back. Especially if it's an ex you still have to keep in contact with, because of a co-parenting situation.


I know I get along with my ex okay, and we can sometimes sit on the phone and joke about things and laugh. But I would hope that if Hiker should hear it one time... that he would still know that there is no threat. Of course, the fact that the ex is remarried (and lives 8 hrs away)

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 06-18-2008 - 10:53am
Well, that sounds like a great start - good communication - now he just has to put that into action! And you sound very patient with how you articulated the way you like to operate - so hopefully he blooms in your presence!! Keep us posted. It is always a matter of how things go over time.