The update on "IT"

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The update on "IT"
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Tue, 06-06-2006 - 8:19am
There is no update on "it" because we STILL haven't done it yet....but in all fairness, we haven't tried in about 2 or 3 weeks. I don't wanna push him (since he is a virgin afterall, and OBVIOUSLY I'm not...lol) and he hasn't made the effort and I know it's because he's afraid he's gonna "fail" again....I know that has to be hard on him. Like I said before, we do stuff, just not IT.......I'm working on getting a little blue pill for him....we'll see how that works....I'll let you guys know as soon as IT happens...lol




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Tue, 06-06-2006 - 10:00am

LOL, thanks for the update Janet!


No pressure Mike!


I'm sure that you two will work it out, and then you'll be here complaining that that's ALL he wants to do LOL!


Good luck!


PS, I love the new siggy!








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Tue, 06-06-2006 - 10:04am

I sure hope I'm making that complaint soon!!!!! A woman has NEEDS!!!! Next Sunday (the 18th) will be 4 months we've been together.


Thanks for the siggy compliment...I absolutely love that picture of him!




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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 9:44am

HI Janet,

Good to hear your updates. They have an old saying in the kitchen, "a watched pot never boils"

I think you should just enjoy these romantic pre-sex days as much as you can and forget about "it" so to speak. I have a good friend who has been married for over 15 years and her husband, who loves her very much and who is very shy, was the same way.

All of a sudden, when you least expect it, it will happen. It really is up to him and when he feels ready.

But do keep us posted. Hope this helps.

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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 1:29pm

I would be careful about this situation. I don't care if other people blast me. Something is not right about this situation. You haven't been dating very long. He wants to move in with you. He's not able to do "it". I would be concerned that he's using the relationship for his own purposes.....a free place to stay. Maybe he's not really into women.

I think you're really vulnerable to being taken advantage of in this whole scenario and I hope that you do not get burned.




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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 1:57pm
True, we haven't been dating very long, but I have known him for 3 years. I asked him to move in with me - not vice-versa. And Mike is a virgin...very nervous about his first time, that's why he's not able to do it. He is into women, and you seem to be the only one wary of this situation. He is not using me for a free place to stay since we are splitting the bills......thanks again for your concern.




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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 2:10pm

Yeah, I'm not trying to rain on your parade and I'm probably not the only one who is wary of the situation. I'm the only one who posts a word of caution.

I'm not telling you what to do. The only thing I'm saying is that you will not get hurt if you take some time to date him without combining households. At least date for a year before living together.

If I'm cautious, it's because I've seen everything under the sun. Mostly, it's a lot of failed relationships.

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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 9:20pm

Tricia,


I think it's good that you voiced your concern, it IS something to consider, even if it turns out not to be


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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 8:11am
he has not been to the doctor yet. I think we will try one more time and if it doesn't work, then I will suggest the doctor....




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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 9:02am

I really think it is something to consider working out before living together. It's much harder to get a person out of your house than it is to get someone to move in.