VDay - Your Plans - for all - dating/not

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VDay - Your Plans - for all - dating/not
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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 5:39pm

Okay - this is a killer day for those not dating - because I know all too well how it feels not to have a special someone to be your Valentine. I know. I can already imagine what Cat is going to say!! ;-)

BUT BUT. I think it is fun to share. I think this helps everyone - it is fun to hear what those are dating are doing - it gives us all something to hope for. And for those not dating it is a relief to read that many are not dating and it is another day.

1. For those of you dating and in relationships - what are you going to do? Do you know yet? If you are not dating what are you doing?

2. Do you do or make anything fun with the kids?

3. What is your favorite flower?

4. What kind of chocolate do you like?

SHARE!!

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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 5:54pm

How about YOU Judy? I wonder what you are planning to do?

Myself? I really don't like V-day as well as Christmas for I feel all this commercialism around me. The expectations of *having* to give presents is off putting to me. If I don't do something **that day** somehow means that I don't care despite my all-the-other-times during the year I show that. This past Christmas I gave in the name of charities of my children's and brothers' choices instead of physical gifts.

CNDG and I already discussed V-day and we are of the same mindset. We are getting together that night for that is the night when she does not have her children. She's coming over for dinner and I'll be making something simple. I was going to take her out but I'd rather spend private, quiet time with her rather than out in public. I have been treating her to dinners for all of our dates so this is a nice economic change as well.

I did buy her a gift which has strong personal meaning to her and something we share in a meditation/visualization together. It's hard to explain here but the physical parts of it are Trader Joe's Truffles, a stone heart pendant, and a Vietnamese rice basket (with the pendant in it) plus a card that has a special meaning written on it along with a Hafiz poem/quotation I wrote in it.

I got cards for both my children as well.

Mark





May your soul be at rest.


May your heart remain open.


May you realize your own true nature.


May you be healed.


May you be a source of healing for the world. - a zen prayer






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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 6:15pm

Aw shucks thanks for asking - I forgot to answer my own post - was too busy editing and rearranging to make it easy to read/answer. LOL!! Maybe that is the editor in me?

Anyway, I have no idea. For a couple of reasons:
1) Exh has not given me his schedule for next week.
2) I don't have an SO or someone significant with whom I would plan ahead for a thing like that right now. Although a couple in the wings:
a) I have had a couple of dates with MtEverest but he is very busy right now and we have not spoken of the occasion.
b) The LabOwner is calling and calling - we keep missing each other - but we have not met yet

The way it is looking now it would be safe to assume that I might be totally alone, unless you count my 2 gorgeous dogs or with DS if his dad doesn't want him that evening.

If I do have DS, he and I will have dinner at home - DS loves my cooking more than going out. Lucky me, eh? :-D

I love red roses.

And my favorite chocolate is in Switzerland - I love the Konditereis and all of their treats - if money and time were not an object, I would just take DS there and we would walk around and enjoy all the sites and pastries and chocolates. A girl can dream, right?

I know you don't like commercialism. But I guess it is us girls that love the thought of having a real Valentine. One of these years I just might.

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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 6:26pm

that is a darn good question here, like Mark I really dislike the commercialism and obligation to buy and also feel the same way about christmas.

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 02-09-2008 - 7:58pm

Well, I don't celebrate Valentine's day at all- it's all about ME that day :)


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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 8:02pm

Mark,

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Sun, 02-10-2008 - 3:02am

6 weeks? That seems like enough time to know where you stand with each other IMHO but then again that could mean seeing each other only 3 times for an hour or two each date.

My take is regardless of how the other person feels, if YOU feel romantic then go for it and give him a card for that is honest and vulnerable. If he does not reciprocate then I would not put too much meaning into it or feel like he HAD to.

Make sense?
Mark





May your soul be at rest.


May your heart remain open.


May you realize your own true nature.


May you be healed.


May you be a source of healing for the world. - a zen prayer






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Sun, 02-10-2008 - 4:15am

I think Valentine's Day can be a real land mine if you're newly dating.

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Sun, 02-10-2008 - 4:54am

I don't like the commercialism of the whole Valentine's event, either!!!!!!


It puts both parties on the spot, IMO... and it's the way people treat each other all year long that matters, not what is done on this ONE DAY.


But that said... it IS an expected thing that SOMETHING is done for recognizing that "day of love", after having grown up all your life in a society that makes it a big deal. It's like my birthday. It's "just another day" for the most part- but yet, I like to get a card or a phone call that lets me know that I wasn't forgotten. That I don't have to go and beat someone over the head just to get some attention or acknowledgment for being a part of someone's life.


I don't expect anything grand out of Hiker... but I do expect SOME sort of gesture that recognizes the day and our relationship. I have a box of Godiva truffles and a small bag of only-green M&Ms. LOL I also have a card (that says what I feel, not a card that says what I think I should say or what I think he wants to hear) and a fun geeky book about science stuff. I'm halfway wanting to keep the book for myself- but I will just have to borrow it from him later. And maybe he will share a truffle with me, too. hehe


1) But plans? No plans. We know better than to try to go out to eat on the day... or even this coming weekend!!! I know this city of ours- and how PACKED the restaurants all get for V-day! It's maddening! Besides, V-day lands on a school/work night, so we aren't going out anyway. We have a day-date planned tomorrow (or today- Sunday-yoicks, I'm up late) and I will probably give him the V-day stuff then. I know he might be going camping with the scouts stuff next weekend, so this will probably be our day to do V-day. If he doesn't have anything for me, so be it. I'm giving him his stuff early anyway. LOL


He will probably try to scam an evening thing (bring a take-out dinner over after the kids are in bed)

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Sun, 02-10-2008 - 9:26am

I am not dating so I have no dating plans for V-day and honestly I am thankful.

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Sun, 02-10-2008 - 1:43pm

"It's putting the man on the spot to "come up with something" because Hallmark says he has to.

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