Venting..... trying not to be resentful
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Venting..... trying not to be resentful
| Wed, 12-31-2008 - 11:27am |
Sometimes I get irritated with EG and feel like he's taking me for granted.
| Wed, 12-31-2008 - 11:27am |
Sometimes I get irritated with EG and feel like he's taking me for granted.
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Oh, Isys.
Its entirely up to him.
I'm having the same kind of issues although he never expects me to change my plans once they have been made for him. Unfortunately he may change plans he has with me with will makes me mad!!!! That has happened any number of times and he doesn't understand how angry it makes me. It happens much more now that we live together and he is taking me for granted. I'm hoping to have a long discussion with him before we head out tonight and try to start the new year with a clean slate.
Sorry this is weighing you down. I personally would have to say something and would not be able to hold it in.
Good luck.
Priscilla
I am with you on that.
He called again and left me VM that he's still most likely going, but there's drama on the dd15 front. She doesn't want to go. WHATEVER!!!! I really don't want to talk to him and hear about all the teen drama. Right now I don't have any drama here and am happy with a peaceful evening with my kids. We're going to see Marley and Me and are heading downtown to watch the "ball drop" here. There's tons of free activities and music shows.
I'm being sweet as pie and try to be understanding. He really wants to be with his kids and I think that's a huge reason why he doesn't plan ahead with me. At least that's what I'm trying to make myself believe. I can't control what's happening and I'm not letting it get me down.
I believe one can plan ahead (is there any other planning?
No, I don't expect anyone to be waiting for me. I am usually pleasantly surprised if anyone did. In fact, I would rather not have anyone wait for me. I grew up with parents that did not want anyone to do anything for them because they did not want to be obligated so I still have that in me. I don't want anyone to wait for me for that has me feel obligated.
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
I'm just trying not to let this resentment destroy our relationship. My ex-H never wanted to do anything and I would go off and do stuff, but feel resentful. It's what killed our relationship. I am having a hard time with acceptance. But then I think about him trying to spend time with his kids and how it never works out the way he wants it because his ex-W takes over the situation.
What are CW's plans for this evening? I know you guys had a disagreement about holidays, how did you handle it?
Cute Widow and I worked it out.
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