I think the fact that you have already been dating for nine months without getting involved in her kids' lives shows that she has taken her responsibility and your relationship very seriously, and has thought long and hard about when the best time would be for you to get more involved with her family. She now trusts and loves you enough to introduce you, which shows how much she feels for you, and how committed she is to making your relationship work.
Some exes are stubborn and just don't get the message, even when we tell them in black-and-white. I have one that e-mails me regularly, and another one that actually turned up at my work, yet they both know I am in love with my partner, and we live together. And because I am a nice person, I don't want to just tell them to take a hike, so I either ignore them (especially the one that e-mails) or respond graciously. There is no way in this world that I would even consider getting back with either of them, and I find it annoying that they still don't properly get the message, but that's not my fault, or my problem. Your gf is probably going through exactly the same thing.
As she asked you to get the phone, she has nothing to hide, and instead of bottling it up, and having this issue eat you up inside, try to find a moment to talk about it. You have an easy entry into the conversation, as you can say you saw these things on her phone, which she asked you to answer. If you just leave it, you will keep churning it over inside you, and it will only make matters worse. Take action as soon as possible!
All the best - looking forward to hearing your update.
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I think the fact that you have already been dating for nine months without getting involved in her kids' lives shows that she has taken her responsibility and your relationship very seriously, and has thought long and hard about when the best time would be for you to get more involved with her family. She now trusts and loves you enough to introduce you, which shows how much she feels for you, and how committed she is to making your relationship work.
Some exes are stubborn and just don't get the message, even when we tell them in black-and-white. I have one that e-mails me regularly, and another one that actually turned up at my work, yet they both know I am in love with my partner, and we live together. And because I am a nice person, I don't want to just tell them to take a hike, so I either ignore them (especially the one that e-mails) or respond graciously. There is no way in this world that I would even consider getting back with either of them, and I find it annoying that they still don't properly get the message, but that's not my fault, or my problem. Your gf is probably going through exactly the same thing.
As she asked you to get the phone, she has nothing to hide, and instead of bottling it up, and having this issue eat you up inside, try to find a moment to talk about it. You have an easy entry into the conversation, as you can say you saw these things on her phone, which she asked you to answer. If you just leave it, you will keep churning it over inside you, and it will only make matters worse. Take action as soon as possible!
All the best - looking forward to hearing your update.
Clem xx
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