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| Fri, 06-20-2008 - 10:20pm |
I knew there would be a vent this weekend. I just didn't expect it to come so quick. So ex's parents are in town. I don't know why but his mother just rubs me the wrong way. So I come home from the salon (side note: I love my new hair color strawberry blonde. So in spite of all my issues right now at least my hair looks good) and they are all at my house. (did I mention "my house") I stopped by the store on the way home to make sure I had something to offer them as I knew they would be coming over but there is something wierd about coming home and they are already there.
I had picked up some cut sunflowers because they were on special and DS and I like to have flowers in the house although it is a rare treat. DS was so excited about the sunflowers and wanted to help me get them set up in the vase. Ex's mother took the flowers out of my hand which ticked off DS who insisted that he wanted to help Mommy. I picked up DS and got a vase but ex's Mom took it upon herself to partake in the activity. I bit my tongue and let all 3 of us set it up making sure DS got to arrange the flowers. Now I know she just wanted to help but for some reason it just sets me off. There is just something un-nerving about her making herself comfortable in my kitchen.
Now, the really crazy part is I am not so domesticated or even all that comfortable in the kitchen but I resented her stepping in on DS and my special moment. Maybe there really is some truth in that there can only be one woman running the household.
I think his father is just adorable and I like having him around. My ex, however, seems to be much closer to his Mom (BTW he resembles her and they are both nosy)
True, that ex and I are no longer together so I shouldn't put up with too much (I have to watch myself because I catch myself starting to get snippy with her) but I do want to keep the peace.
The real kicker is that ex, who has been living in my house for the past two months, packed up his stuff to stay at a friend's house while his parents are in town. His excuse is they are old fashioned and it would really freak them out. Let's see... we already had a child out of wedlock I don't think anything they learn could top that. But I will play along as long as I don't have to outright lie. I do draw the line there.
On a positive note: my house is cleaner than it has been in ages.

Sorry to hear that you are not enjoying this "in-law!!" visit as much as you could. You just seem super nice to have let them stay with you and while this ex seems clueless. WHy does he still stay with you anyways. Are you still a bit confused about taking him
Vent girl vent!!!!
Venting is good for the soul isn't it.
Hey dancewithme - good to see you back - we want an update!!
"Time to make decisions either ways. Seems like he is dragging your life on and on. Have a big talk with him and if you guys are not together then he should be out. You should move on with your life."
AGREED! I don't think you should be expected to entertain his parents and have him live with you when he is looking to date someone else. I think there is much more to this situation than just arranging some sunflowers!!
HUGS msmsavannah!! Keep us posted!
I continue to feel like my ex MIL steps on my toes and it is so annoying. Just remember that the sweet little one came from you and he belongs to the world but you first!! You have every right to be possessive and I err on the over possessive side without apologies. He is a toddler now and the time you are putting into raising him is without measure and I truly dont think your ex can get that unless he was there. Before long you will be continuing pouring every ounce of energy and love you ever had into him as he starts to really engage more, form relationships and go to school - as he gets bigger you will feel even more connected to WHO he is because of everything YOU do to nurture him getting there. It doesnt sound like anyone but you will be able to have that pride when he ends up being the sterling young man you know he will so hang on to that.
There will be more flowers of course - but that part made me smile because DS LOVED sunflowers the best too...
When is the ex moving out? Is he paying rent and CS? I totally do not get his lying to his parents. Very high school and not worth your time IMO!!
The thing I was just thinking, too, is that poor msmsavannah bought the flowers. The grandmother should have come with gifts for them and a help her/grateful attitude.
But I think all this shall pass - only one more day, right msmsavannah? Check in and give us a report!! Hopefully it all goes better after that day.
Wow!!! This board is so busy.
Phew - much better today with this one - and I am happy for you.
Well, what is the rush with him then if he is helping - and it is not like you have a line at the door - I bet it takes some time for you to find a good one on EH - it is just a time honored process of months. So I bet it will all work out in the end.
I can see how his parents are confused. It must be hard for them, too. But the joy is the wonderful grandson - can't have too many of them, right? LOL!!