I have been a lurker on iV for years. I rarely post, havent in ages & ages. But i cannot sit on my hands here, & watch ignorance be spewed.
Years ago, before I was married & went onto medical school & straightened my emotional life out, I was almost exactly where Rlch & many other women were. In an abusive relationship. By the skin of my teeth, & with a really great counselor, I realized I was making a huge life altering mistake. But, i KNOW how easily it can happen. AND what the fall out from something like this is.
I am a practicing psychiatrist. I specialize in child psyc AND abnormal psyc. Let me tell those of you who think you know what you are talking about, with all your "wisdom" - you have NOT A CLUE what people like Rlch, Queenbun & Zinnia have gone through, continue to go through & must painfully & BRAVELY, watch thier innocent children go through. These are LONG standing, dysfunctional, manipulative, CRUEL men who have taken the love that these women once gave them, & used it to their advanatge. They controlled these women, brutalized them & had no remorse. (Im speaking more from what I have read over the years
Thank you...I try to see humor in any situation (much cheaper than xanax and imodium). Doesnt always work with my ex. I think your post was spot on and amazing. Ive been in physical, emotional and financially abusive relationships and will fight to the bitter end for my DD. Nobody deserves to be kicked when they are vulnerable (CP is the exception of course...LOL). I really cant stand to see such ugliness directed intentionally. CP is calculated, vengeful, meticulous and downright cruel..and i just dont get it. Thats what these two came off as to me and it was completely unwarranted on Rebeccas part. I seriously think they have some severe issues of their own and were projecting onto her. I agree...sad.
Well, maybe OP has the bad memory, but she definitely posted in late winter/early spring that the father moved for visitation and sole custody after having no visitation for 8 months, and she said that she was going to go for sole custody too if the b**st*rd was going to try that, and then he ultimately withdrew his motion, and she claimed she would not withdraw hers b/c that would look like she only sought sole custody for retaliatory reasons.
Thank God for you two this morning. I was worried and feeling too weary about other things to post. I just wanted to add that the two posters (?) have never to my knowledge ever posted about themselves on this board. It is as if they are above problems, anxieties, issues and I wonder why this is. It makes it hard to relate to them or hear their criticism because we have no background on them and they have dodged full participation on the board in favor of lurkdom and the occasional flaming post....
It makes it hard to relate to them or hear their criticism because we have no background on them and they have dodged full participation on the board in favor of lurkdom and the occasional flaming post....
Exactly...and the flaming posts are all directed at Rebecca...dont get it...nor do i choose to understand what makes them tick. Hmmm wow is that
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I have been a lurker on iV for years. I rarely post, havent in ages & ages. But i cannot sit on my hands here, & watch ignorance be spewed.
Years ago, before I was married & went onto medical school & straightened my emotional life out, I was almost exactly where Rlch & many other women were. In an abusive relationship. By the skin of my teeth, & with a really great counselor, I realized I was making a huge life altering mistake. But, i KNOW how easily it can happen. AND what the fall out from something like this is.
I am a practicing psychiatrist. I specialize in child psyc AND abnormal psyc. Let me tell those of you who think you know what you are talking about, with all your "wisdom" - you have NOT A CLUE what people like Rlch, Queenbun & Zinnia have gone through, continue to go through & must painfully & BRAVELY, watch thier innocent children go through. These are LONG standing, dysfunctional, manipulative, CRUEL men who have taken the love that these women once gave them, & used it to their advanatge. They controlled these women, brutalized them & had no remorse. (Im speaking more from what I have read over the years
WELL PUT!!!!!
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Well, maybe OP has the bad memory, but she definitely posted in late winter/early spring that the father moved for visitation and sole custody after having no visitation for 8 months, and she said that she was going to go for sole custody too if the b**st*rd was going to try that, and then he ultimately withdrew his motion, and she claimed she would not withdraw hers b/c that would look like she only sought sole custody for retaliatory reasons.
I just wanted to add that the two posters (?) have never to my knowledge ever posted about themselves on this board. It is as if they are above problems, anxieties, issues and I wonder why this is. It makes it hard to relate to them or hear their criticism because we have no background on them and they have dodged full participation on the board in favor of lurkdom and the occasional flaming post....
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It makes it hard to relate to them or hear their criticism because we have no background on them and they have dodged full participation on the board in favor of lurkdom and the occasional flaming post....
Exactly...and the flaming posts are all directed at Rebecca...dont get it...nor do i choose to understand what makes them tick. Hmmm wow is that
There is something about the strong personal interest that is a bit off kilter.
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