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| Sat, 02-17-2007 - 4:47pm |
First, I love the book Why Men Love B*tches. It's about making them want you (under the premise of things you chase run away), not being their mom (which I tend to do) and such.
Now, as I'm just re-entering the dating scene, I'm asking you advice/vote. Met guy at SuperBowl party, had nice dinner after (and nice kiss!), he called that Wednesay for 20-min chat, we emailed that Thursday and I sent the last one Friday as I was leaving for ski trip. I told him about the trip, but never said how long it was. Haven't heard from him since. The B book would say not to write, make him come to you especially since I was the last to write. However, with my being out of town, I can see doing it. On the other hand, he should assume it wasnt a two-week trip, so he should know that I should be back soon.
So what do you think? Wait until Mon and email? Not email at all?
Thanks in advance!
K

The perfect/optimal answer is do nothing of course.
BUT I could see sending him a few pix, particularly if you have some flattering ski bunny shots of yourself. But that has to be it - he has to move everything forward from there.
I love that book too!
Oh yeah! Perfect! That happened with me. I saw a guy a couple times b4 i went to Italy & then didnt hear back. Under the PREMISE of showing him my Italy pics (which i looked hot in! lol), i e'd him.
I can't say that I follow any rules. Sure, I have a few guidelines, but I'm prone to breaking the rules I set for myself, no matter what any books say. Obviously, since I'm still single, this may or may not be the best course. However, I do think books might apply most of the time, but no advice is hard and fast and true to every situation.
If I were really into this guy, I might email, just something short and sweet- maybe a "how was your week- the vacation was wonderful" something like that. He'll know you're back in town, but he'll have to do the asking if he wants to see you again.
Just my opinion!
Moody, not big on contacting men, but there are exceptions to every rule
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Ok, so you've only known the guy really for a few hours, so putting him on the "got back from skiing, here's my pics" list isn't wise.
Okay... after getting my 'votes' (from here and friends) tallied, I sent him an email last night. Casual, said I was back and how was his week. Just waiting now... if I don't hear back, I'll know.
On another note, I went to a party Saturday night and ran into two men I'd met before (one of which had asked me out when I was still dating my ex) and met two new ones. I've heard from two of the four since... still need to drop the kid bomb with the one of the four who doesn't know.
Anyway, getting back out there! It's nervewracking... but I'm trying!
Thanks for your advice!
Kim