Waah! Look what my Dad just sent to Ave-
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Waah! Look what my Dad just sent to Ave-
| Mon, 02-11-2008 - 8:50am |
He got the pics of the dance, & he sent her this ... Im not showing it to her right now, i dont think,


Rebecca, Mom to Averey, 2/8/00, Kibo, Sana & Zuri too!
I think this is something we can all use!!!!!!! But I agree I would not show her now.
I was thinking, rlch, that maybe the focus should be on getting her feelings validated that it is hard being without daddy for however long it takes for him to get better, but here are the things we can do to cope? Like having a male substitute at the dance? She is going to need to work on coping skills and while they will be hard now they will get easier in time.
I know this must be hard - the only thing I can relate is when DS got his peanut allergy. It was so hard to have to deal with him not being able to have cake at birthday parties and not being able to sit near kids with peanut butter sandwiches in the cafeteria and stuff like that. I learned quickly that I cannot expect other parents to serve peanut-safe cake but more importantly I could not really trust anyone but myself to be informed about what is peanut safe or not safe (there is this "may contains" risk). So, I started buying safe cupcakes and the teacher would keep those at class so he could have something. I would feed him really good before a party so he would not be hungry there - it is just easier not to eat at one than to worry about all those bowls of stuff. And at the end of every party I take him to get a treat. It is easier now. But the coping skill was important and was the tact I took instead of trying to make the world adapt to his allergy.
Oh wow - those are all good. And I do agree about that dance. I am so glad you wrote that letter and got a response.
I know it is hard - it is just going to take time and your continued good efforts.