The waiting is the hardest part.....

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Registered: 11-05-2006
The waiting is the hardest part.....
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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 8:17pm

I am new to this....so bear with me and be kind...LOL
Since about April I have sensed that a customer of mine might be interested in me, just from the small talk and the way he is around me. So, about a month ago I sent him a little note asking him to go out for ice cream or something sometime. So, about a month went by and nothing. So, then last week I get a call from work and it was him. He said that he is currently involved with someone but they have been having a lot of problems lately and that he has noticed me on several occasions. He would definately be interested. He will keep me in mind. He has called and been into where I work a couple of times since then. Over time I have come to really like him and almost to the point to where I know he could "be the one". I just know if we were ever to get together there would be fireworks...My two areas that I was concerned about aren't a problem for him. I thought I would be too old for him (I am 8 yrs older) and that I have 2 kids. But, he was fine with that. I did let him know that I have been interested in him for quite a while, which is a big step for me. I am not of a risk taker. We left it that we can still be friends and if it is meant to be it will happen. I am not just going sit around and wait for him to come around. I know that would be a waste of time. Especially, if he may not be happy in his current situation...but he may be comfortable and settle for it. But, everywhere I go, I look for him...hoping to see him drive by my house (I live on a main street in my town) I can make myself availible for him if needs a friend to talk to. Yesterday I looked at home in his neighborhood that he encouraged me to look at.He said I should buy it and we could be neighbors. I told him under the circumstances, I didn't think that would be a good idea. It turned out to be a little smaller than I was looking for anyways. Anybody have any suggestions???? During this time I have given up on him (tried to anyways)a couple of times and something happens where he gets back on my little brain again....All suggestions welcome;-)

Thank you and have a great evening:-)

L'bug


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 11-05-2006 - 9:01pm

He is with someone. And you cannot change that - he has to change that. He may or he may not.

Until then, I think it best for you to avoid him really. And to not dwell on all the reasons in your head about why he is the one.

THE ONE will seek you out, be available at the same time as you. It could be a lot of people really - it is more about situation, timing and mutual interest and readiness.

Good luck and keep us posted!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Sun, 11-05-2006 - 10:41pm

Hi.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2005
Sun, 11-05-2006 - 10:57pm

He only sought you out when he was "having problems" with his relationship?


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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-05-2006
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 7:33am
Thank you all. You all made some very good points. When I make a comment about myself...he uses comments like "that is good to know". Ex. talking about it takes a lot to get me mad etc...Sometimes, I feel like I am in a job interview or an audition. Then in the back of my mind...I put myself in his S-O's place and think what if we do get togehter and "we" hit a rough patch...will he do the same to me. I know I wouldn't like it. So, I think I will just avoid him and move on. When he comes into my office, I will keep it strictly professional. Afterall, he isn't worth jeopardizing my job for!!!! Well, thanks again....I will keep you posted:-) Mr Right is just around the corner, I can feel it....LOL Have great day all!
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Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 10:54am
Yeah, I agree. You should forget that guy. He served his purpose anyway. He was a fun crush and now you can move on to something real.