want to ask a guy out

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2008
want to ask a guy out
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Mon, 08-11-2008 - 8:51pm
I need some advice.
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Mon, 08-11-2008 - 10:26pm

Welcome to the board :)

I think what you should do is strike up some conversations with him, get to know him a little, ask him about himself, find out if he's single and plant the seed that you are single.

And then leave the ball in his court- if he's interested after you let him know you're single, then he will ask you out himself. My experience has been that men usually prefer to be the ones to pursue. But they also need to know they have the go-ahead to do so... so letting him know you're single and interested will go a long way.

Good luck!

The boy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-12-2008 - 6:40am
I say go for it!!!!
 
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 08-12-2008 - 12:00pm

Yeah, i agree. In a situtation like this, I dont think there is anything wrong with you making the 1st move. NORMALLY i say let the guy - but shoot, why not? Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 08-12-2008 - 1:30pm
That's how my sister met her man of almost 3 years.
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 08-12-2008 - 2:26pm
That's freaking bold, but genius. It leaves the ball in his court and is not overly presumptuous. I think that's worth a shot.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 08-12-2008 - 3:28pm

I agree with Alison. I would encourage conversation and let him know I am single. If he asks me out, great and if not then next.

I find that the best relationships come when the guy wants to be with you so much he asks you out. The other thing to consider - is that you don't want a dating mess in a place where your daughter goes - so maybe one more reason to go slow and see his thoughts. A lot of guys won't date if there is a business relationship.

Welcome!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 8:07am
My sister is rather pushy that way regarding men, she has a tendency to have them running for the hills. LOL.
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 11:55pm
Did you ask him out? How did things go?
The boy

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