Want to date but scared to

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Registered: 05-05-2005
Want to date but scared to
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Sun, 02-03-2008 - 7:25pm

I want to start dating but I am scared at the thought. I don't know if I even know how to date. I was married for 11 years to a guy I started dating at 14. He was really the only one I dated. How did you go about dating. I don't even know how or where to find a guy. I have no close friends. My X slept with all the friend I had at the first of our marriage and I never made new friends. I have joined

 

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 02-03-2008 - 8:10pm

Hi gal_power and welcome to our board.

It sounds like your church singles group will be good for you to make new friends, enjoy a bit of a social life and gain suppoort - I think this will boost your confidence. Of course it helps a lot to stay here and read our posts so you can have an idea of what to expect.

Think of the positives - you get to rewrite yourself to be all you can be so you attract someone who really likes you for who you are. Wait and find the guy who is really into you and who treats you like gold - he is out there.

I can't really think of anything to be scared of - it is a learning adventure - go slow and take your time and listen to your inner voice!

Hopefully the others will chime in soon, too.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Sun, 02-03-2008 - 10:00pm
I don't know if you live in a larger town or city, but I have joined Meetup groups and really enjoyed making new friends at them. I can't even imagine being in your shoes and how scary that might feel, but I would definitely try and join as many single groups as possible, just to get out and socialize again. And like Judy said, you can define who you are and what you want and don't want. Yes, I have dated many toads in my time and I'm still single after 7 years, but I don't believe it to be just them, I know I'm really picky and sometimes I think, I might not really want to find my happily ever after.
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Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 9:29am

I spent 7 years alone before I started dating again and to be honest--the first few dates were a bit off but you get into the flow pretty easily!

April

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 10:36am

I agree that you need to listen to your instincts.