Wanted: 40 year old crazy man

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Wanted: 40 year old crazy man
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 6:34pm

From the posts I've read today, I think I've decided what I want. I agreed with T-bone- from what Ive seen lately, 30 ish year old men are more like 20 somethings. So, even though I'm 31, I think I need someone at least 40. We have had a lot of talk about being "emotionally unstable." Although it sounds unorthodox, I think I need someone just a little bit emotionally unstable. In other words, any guy who would want to date me when I have 3 kids under the age of 5 would have to be crazy! Two requirements so far.

What are your requirements?

Amy

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 6:38pm

LOL! That just made me laugh out loud! Seriously!

I'm happily remarried - to a man who tells me he lost his mind years ago as evidenced by many actions - and he's 40. So yeah - I think you might be on the right track to finding the perfect for you man!

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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 11:12pm

I went out on a date once (key word: ONCE) with a 39 year old whose biological clock was ticking so loud, he launched into a 40 minute monologue about how great he was with kids and what a tragedy it was his ex-wife never wanted kids, blah, blah, blah.




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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 7:23am

LOL!! Your post is very funny and made me laugh.

Don't get tunnel vision on the age thing. You want someone capable/willing/ready to have a good relationship and INTO YOU. This can come at any age.

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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 7:54am
Funny you should ask... one of my single friend's just asked me what I was looking for. As a single mom, I am looking for someone who loves family. My exh avoided family like they were diseased. I want someone who shares the same goals I have in life and who is responsible. Someone I can always count on, and who can always count on me. This person would have to be a dad already, or have a strong desire to be a dad...especially since my dd's father is out of the picture. I tend to be very structured, so I would need someone to help me let loose every so often. I need romance and attention. I want someone who compliments me - sort of a ying and yang theory.
Like I mentioned before, so far I have met the two young and the two old and the in-between status men (not quite divorced, etc)
And while I am searching, I have to keep reminding myself that this person might not exist, and I have to learn to be ok with being alone. But being alone, doesn't mean I have to be lonely.
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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 8:03am

You sound just like me with what you want.

I want someone who wants to be home and into family - me and the kids - not his mom and his family as I just posted in my QOTW#2 -

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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 8:36am

Keep an open mind on the age issue. If a man really likes you and feels connected to you, it will not matter to him if you have 3 kids. That won't make him emotionally unstable. That makes him pretty darn stable.

As single moms, we have to avoid the men who think they can't do any better than dating a single mom. I think we've all run into men who have that attitude. They act like they are doing you the biggest favor in the world by being willing to date you...a single mom. Reject those toads. Your worth did not go down when you gave birth to your first, second, or third child. View yourself as valuable and others will too.

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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 1:27pm
I'm divorced, male, 43, two kids and my kids think I'm crazy sometimes.....does that count?
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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 1:49pm
Too bad you are all the way in Arizona. You sound nice to me! :)
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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 2:54pm

As single moms, we have to avoid the men who think they can't do any better than dating a single mom. I think we've all run into men who have that attitude. They act like they are doing you the biggest favor in the world by being willing to date you...a single mom. Reject those toads.


***Standing and cheering***




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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 5:46pm

Maybe you're for me t-bone!

Amy

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