Wanted: 40 year old crazy man

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Registered: 03-04-2005
Wanted: 40 year old crazy man
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 6:34pm

From the posts I've read today, I think I've decided what I want. I agreed with T-bone- from what Ive seen lately, 30 ish year old men are more like 20 somethings. So, even though I'm 31, I think I need someone at least 40. We have had a lot of talk about being "emotionally unstable." Although it sounds unorthodox, I think I need someone just a little bit emotionally unstable. In other words, any guy who would want to date me when I have 3 kids under the age of 5 would have to be crazy! Two requirements so far.

What are your requirements?

Amy

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Registered: 07-10-2001
Wed, 03-16-2005 - 10:10am

Hi Amy,

You never know. Are you in AZ?

Brian

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Registered: 05-05-2004
Wed, 03-16-2005 - 1:10pm

Tricia:

"As single moms, we have to avoid the men who think they can't do any better than dating a single mom. I think we've all run into men who have that attitude. They act like they are doing you the biggest favor in the world by being willing to date you...a single mom."

Great point. I just want to add that I've dated the men who want to "save me" and show me how to "run my life", cuz, God forbid, as a single mom, I must be doing it all wrong and I need them to straighten things out.

On a positive note, I actually know someone who thinks dating a single mom is a positive thing. When asked why, he said that when he compared the single moms he's dated to the just single women, the moms were more independent, self-sufficient, organized and a lot less clingy. And as a 43 year old single man with no children, he wasn't looking for someone who is overly clingy or needy. So, there are men out there who think were pretty cool. Yeah us!!

Donna

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Wed, 03-16-2005 - 1:13pm

Wow, Donna, that post made my day!!

I so agree with Tricia on that one and also on you with regards to the ones that want to save you.

We don't need to be saved. And we don't need to feel like we are accepting charity to be dated.

We deserve to be cherished.

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Registered: 03-04-2005
Wed, 03-16-2005 - 2:47pm

You are too far for me, my dear Brian. I'm in NY. Too bad...I wouldn't have done the FWB with you, but I definitely would have gone on a nice lunch date with you to get to know one another.

Amy

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Fri, 03-18-2005 - 5:28am

And here we are! Trying to hitch up on the board! LOL. I thought that was cute! If Brian were to be in NY or you in AZ, wouldn't that have been funny! See? We don't have to go on an online site to find a date, we can stay on this board and try our luck here! Just teasing! I thought the idea was cute.

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