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| Mon, 04-21-2008 - 8:22pm |
Hello,
TG took me out to dinner tonight on my work break... and he flat out asked me if i was dating other guys, too. Phew.. at least i could honestly say "NO".... but i ratted on myself... my overthinking brain feels stupid as **it...
Well, i told him my theory about dating more than one guy at a time.. and said, I haven't since being with you.. but in the past i've dated 2 - 5 guys at a time... yes, i actually said "2 - 5".... he looked shocked.... first he said he couldn't afford to date 2 - 5 women..... then he was quiet... and i finally realized the horrible picture of myself that i just painted.. and I said, "oh but i wasn't sleeping with them all. OMG I'm sorry i made you think that." He said, "you read my mind.. that's exactly what i was thinking"
I still feel stupid that it came across the way it did... I had to back pedal BIG TIME.. and i told him about the book i read 1 1/2 years ago before i started dating again after my divorce... how the book said women should date more than one guy while they are getting to know each of them.... He thought that was bull because he can tell things about a person in the first five minutes... But i said, well as a guy you can call the woman you are interested in.. but as a female, we have to wait so we don't look like we are chasing the guy... so i said, in the past, while i waited, i went out with someone else.. casually.. like just a dinner or something... NOT sex...
I feel like i should have just said, i've slept with over 100 guys (which is NO WHERE the truth but that's how stupid i feel). I think way too hard....
He said guys think the same way as women and wonder if she will call... and I said, "no they don't" I said i thought, if they're interested... they call... simple for a guy..." He said, no, that he was wondering why i didn't call or text him... And I had to confess, that he kinda scared me when he called so much... i was worried that he was a stalker.... He said, you must have had some bad experiences.... he also joked and said, okay then, i'll stop calling you... I said, no keep calling me... I said, the first week it freaked me out, but then i started liking it.... He said, he called because he really liked me... and I said, well, i was hoping that was the reason, but i didn't know. He laughed... and so did i, but I hope i didn't ruin what he thinks of me.. He said it was a great conversation and that he feels he knows me better....
So i hope it was a good talk... gosh it's weird... i have a

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What!???!!
A couple of months into it she told him she loved him.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Oh boy, I sure wish I had read this a few yrs ago, would have saved me a TON of heartache and the financial dilemna I now face.......
mom_uk2socal
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
I agree!
A couple of months into it she told him she loved him.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
Yes...he just remarried last August.
ahh yeah now I remember this, blended family of 7
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
"i said, i can't come over EVERY night because the children notice when i don't come home... (they are too little to have a clue what i'm doing but they know i was out all night AND my mom is starting to get mad about me staying out too)...."
Um, am I the only person who may/or may not have been paying attention and is starting to wonder how old loonybunny is? I'm certainly not trying to rain on a parade, but I'm not going to support a teen mom leaving her kids with her mom and assuming they don't know any better. Been there and didn't do that. Frankly, didn't ask anyone else to watch them.
As a single mom, I don't have "many nights" to wake up with my BF, and if I did, my 56 yr old mother wouldn't care, so I'm just wondering what the deal is here.
Curious. Not just being negative.
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