we had the TALK

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Registered: 03-25-2002
we had the TALK
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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 8:22pm

Hello,


TG took me out to dinner tonight on my work break... and he flat out asked me if i was dating other guys, too. Phew.. at least i could honestly say "NO".... but i ratted on myself... my overthinking brain feels stupid as **it...


Well, i told him my theory about dating more than one guy at a time.. and said, I haven't since being with you.. but in the past i've dated 2 - 5 guys at a time... yes, i actually said "2 - 5".... he looked shocked.... first he said he couldn't afford to date 2 - 5 women..... then he was quiet... and i finally realized the horrible picture of myself that i just painted.. and I said, "oh but i wasn't sleeping with them all. OMG I'm sorry i made you think that." He said, "you read my mind.. that's exactly what i was thinking"


I still feel stupid that it came across the way it did... I had to back pedal BIG TIME.. and i told him about the book i read 1 1/2 years ago before i started dating again after my divorce... how the book said women should date more than one guy while they are getting to know each of them.... He thought that was bull because he can tell things about a person in the first five minutes... But i said, well as a guy you can call the woman you are interested in.. but as a female, we have to wait so we don't look like we are chasing the guy... so i said, in the past, while i waited, i went out with someone else.. casually.. like just a dinner or something... NOT sex...


I feel like i should have just said, i've slept with over 100 guys (which is NO WHERE the truth but that's how stupid i feel). I think way too hard....


He said guys think the same way as women and wonder if she will call... and I said, "no they don't" I said i thought, if they're interested... they call... simple for a guy..." He said, no, that he was wondering why i didn't call or text him... And I had to confess, that he kinda scared me when he called so much... i was worried that he was a stalker.... He said, you must have had some bad experiences.... he also joked and said, okay then, i'll stop calling you... I said, no keep calling me... I said, the first week it freaked me out, but then i started liking it.... He said, he called because he really liked me... and I said, well, i was hoping that was the reason, but i didn't know. He laughed... and so did i, but I hope i didn't ruin what he thinks of me.. He said it was a great conversation and that he feels he knows me better....


So i hope it was a good talk... gosh it's weird... i have a

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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 9:05am

Her Mom lives with her and watches the kids when she works/goes out--Looney is 35 and the kids at home are 8,5,3--I believe that they are in bed when she get home from work/going out unless she spends the night somewhere, that is the point that she was making, that she needs to put a stop to things a bit because the kids are noticing...she is a very good/responsible mom!


April

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April

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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 7:40pm
Interesting that you use the "race car" analogy... TG loves Nascar.. he's a big fan and never misses a race..
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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 7:52pm

We will definately have our girls night out! When my foot gets better... karaoke it is...


a sure sign of a controling person is that he doesn't let you out with the girls because he doesn't trust you... so if i'm right about TG it won't be an issue.. and if it is... i will kick him to the curb.. we may be exclusive now, but i didn't marry him....


and of course, with me.. it will still be one day at a time.. i have relaxed a bit more, though.... but i still keep my eyes open and compare every little thing to the ex... The ex and i had two months of bliss before he turned evil on me... so at the end of two months i might let more of my guard down.... that will be the big mile stone for me.


I'm enjoying the newness!!!


Loonybunny

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Wed, 04-23-2008 - 7:54pm

I know and growing up he was such a dork!!!!

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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 8:08pm

Thanks April... looks like you've been following my posts.... no, I'm no teen mom... and BTW I pay my mom to watch my children full time..... she lives with me not the other way around... I have a fulltime job and pay all the bills.... i don't take it for granted ... it is

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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 10:22pm
wait - wait - that was silverlining that wrote you that post - not me!
Just saying....lol
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Mon, 04-28-2008 - 11:47pm

Oh I have good chilcare. Use it when I can afford it and/or call in some favors.


I probably just read the posts incorrectly. Grats on meeting someone :)

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