Weekend sucked

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Weekend sucked
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Wed, 10-22-2008 - 1:14am

So Duck Fan let me down for the first time. On Friday he had a card game with the guys which I want to state for a fact I am totally fine with. He needs boy nights like i need girl nights. He says to me that he wants to see me though and I tell him I'll wait up. My older kids are at a sleepover, baby is asleep, and I am all sexy waiting for his call. The baby starts to fuss and I lay down with her figuring she'll go back to sleep (which she did) and he'll call (which he did not). My friend Zara went to peek on the baby and saw me sleeping there, phone in hand, dressed to the heels (she took my heels off and covered me with a blanket). The next morning he texted me like everything was normal except way more complimentary. I wouldn't have been mad if he would have just called and said, "Hey babe I know I wanted to see you but things are going longer here and I'm gonna have to rain check." But he didn't call so I was annoyed. At least we'd get together Saturday like we had planned right.

NO! Because he stayed out too late the night before and was too tired to spend any time with me. And we work this weekend so I mean I wanted a little time with him and now it will be at least three weeks from the last time we spent time together to the next. We've seen less and less of each other (minus work) as it is. I'm starting to wonder if he's maybe just not that into me. Yes the time we spend together is really great but maybe that's just on my end. Maybe he doesn't feel the same about it.

Now he has made a point to be sweet to me this week. I'm trying to just get past it. It's too late to mention now that I am upset but I didn't mention it at the time because I was waiting for an explanation and I didn't bring it up. That's my bad. I guess what it boils down to is I've had so much disappointment in the past that even though he's only done this once it feels like yet again. Anyone know what I mean?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 1:40am

For me when someone tells me that they are going to be with me and bails out without telling me then that is not acceptable. Even if they are late I don't like it.

Ex. I called my DD15 that I want to pick her up early at her mom's house and when can she be ready? She told me 4:35. I said "Not 4:30 to 5 but 4:35?" She said "yes." She had me wait for 15 min before she was ready. I told her that when she explicitly tells me a specific time then I expect her to not keep me waiting so long since 1) she told me exactly when she'll be ready (I did not tell her when) and 2) I made an effort to show up on time for her.

I think it is never too late to talk about things that are important to you. I don't believe in being pissy about it but I believe in letting the other person know how I don't find that acceptable since you told Duck Fan that you'll be waiting up.

Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Registered: 07-19-2008
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 7:48am

I think that totally stinks on Duck Fan's part and he is a goober this week. I hate it when I'm late and other people are late. I would say somethign to him that....hey I made time for you and then you didn't bother to show up or call....put the shoe on the other foot. I'm not saying do that to him but make him realize how he would feel if you did that to him.


Hugs,


JL

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 8:17am

Oh Sweetie! Thats NOT fair! & he should have absolutely let you know. & when he didnt, he should have apologized! Not just acted like it never happened. That is taking advantage of you.


I think its not at ALL too late to talk about it.

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Wed, 10-22-2008 - 10:36am
That does suck.
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Registered: 10-17-2008
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 10:51am

I'm sorry to hear that...that was not very nice of him at all!!!.

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 10:22pm
I was really hoping you would reply because I was wondering if I was being unfair. I know I am not from a female perspective but I wanted to know from a male perspective if that was true as well since we do honestly think differently.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 10:24pm
What's kinda funny is my best friend Zara says all my weekends for the next month are booked LOL! She's madder than I am.
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Wed, 10-22-2008 - 10:26pm
I think I will tonight. I like the way you phrased that so we'll see what he says. Any excuse is better than not knowing. I also hate when people are late and make it a point not to be.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 10:28pm
I really feel a lot better about talking to him seeing as everyone else thinks it's still okay to do so. I'll let you know what goes down.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 10:30pm
That's very true. Maybe he doesn't realize I am truly okay with guy time. I also like his friends. They are good people.
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