Weekend sucked

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Weekend sucked
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Wed, 10-22-2008 - 1:14am

So Duck Fan let me down for the first time. On Friday he had a card game with the guys which I want to state for a fact I am totally fine with. He needs boy nights like i need girl nights. He says to me that he wants to see me though and I tell him I'll wait up. My older kids are at a sleepover, baby is asleep, and I am all sexy waiting for his call. The baby starts to fuss and I lay down with her figuring she'll go back to sleep (which she did) and he'll call (which he did not). My friend Zara went to peek on the baby and saw me sleeping there, phone in hand, dressed to the heels (she took my heels off and covered me with a blanket). The next morning he texted me like everything was normal except way more complimentary. I wouldn't have been mad if he would have just called and said, "Hey babe I know I wanted to see you but things are going longer here and I'm gonna have to rain check." But he didn't call so I was annoyed. At least we'd get together Saturday like we had planned right.

NO! Because he stayed out too late the night before and was too tired to spend any time with me. And we work this weekend so I mean I wanted a little time with him and now it will be at least three weeks from the last time we spent time together to the next. We've seen less and less of each other (minus work) as it is. I'm starting to wonder if he's maybe just not that into me. Yes the time we spend together is really great but maybe that's just on my end. Maybe he doesn't feel the same about it.

Now he has made a point to be sweet to me this week. I'm trying to just get past it. It's too late to mention now that I am upset but I didn't mention it at the time because I was waiting for an explanation and I didn't bring it up. That's my bad. I guess what it boils down to is I've had so much disappointment in the past that even though he's only done this once it feels like yet again. Anyone know what I mean?

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 10:36pm

Absolutely!

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Thu, 10-23-2008 - 12:07pm
My biggest peeve about anyone/relationship/friendship anything is people who say they will do something and then don't. If its as simple as "I'll call you back" or "I'll drop by later/tonight" etc if they don't do it, and at the very least call to say "hey, its not gonna happen, I'm stuck at work etc etc" then I harbour it and hold it against them. It's not acceptable. Like you said, he could have at least called and said "I'm not going to make it tonight, sorry" I just had this happen tuesday night. A friend was supposed to drop by for coffee and by 10:30 I went to bed. The next morning they emailed to apologize that they didn't get out of their meeting until after 11pm and figured it was too late by then. WELL DUH but at least CALL lol Sorry to steal your thread, I would be upset too and I agree with Mark. Its never "too late" to discuss it, but not all pissy just in a calm manner of "this wasn't acceptable to me" and let them know.

 

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Thu, 10-23-2008 - 3:16pm

Yuk... I would have been peeved!


I would be honest with him and say that your time is valuable. You look forward to your time out and when someone lets you down it sucks. Ask that in the future he at least calls. Even then I would have been upset. All ready to go out and he decides to stay out late.


Be honest with him. You can present your truth without blaming or chastizing. State how you felt and your needs for the future. I hope that he sees this and respects you!

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 9:22pm
Well I talked to him. He did apologize and said he was going to make it up to me tonight. I'm in the process of getting all dolled up for a date and some nakie time (provided he's really good at making up LOL). I'll be sure to post tomorrow.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 10-25-2008 - 1:33am

I really don't think this is a gender specific thing. If ANYONE, male or female boggies out on me after telling me that they'll call and I would tell them I'll be waiting for them THEN that's not acceptable to me.

I feel if I want a continued relationship with that person (male or female) then I would let them know regardless of how much time has past.

Mark who thinks part of his problem is not that he is male but a Ducks fan





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sat, 10-25-2008 - 5:59pm
LOL "Sorry baby but the Ducks have got to go."
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