weekend update
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| Mon, 11-12-2007 - 12:24pm |
Here's the weekend update (still double booked by the way)
Penn called Friday. He did ask me what happened on Thursday... I told him i missed his call and met up with some friends. kinda vague. Friday night i was very exhausted after a long week of working (or perhaps because i was out late Thursday night)...either way, i was too tired to go out. I told Penn that i'd call later in the evening if i change my mind. He called again Friday night at 11 pm seeing if i changed my mind. WW said he stopped in the bar looking for me. I was sound asleep Friday night.... no partying for me.
Saturday... Penn called me in the morning. I was surprised. He said he really wanted to see me before starting his 12 hr days monday. I told him mornings are not good for me because i have children. He offered to bring breakfast to my house because he was going in to work that afternoon. I said no. I said i'd call later that night if i went out.
Okay, so i didn't call. I think it was sweet that he wanted to bring me breakfast. But i thought he was calling a bit much. Another reason i didn't call was because i started second guessing myself about Sean. He didn't say i was his girlfriend... BUT we were really close. I actually started thinking that i shouldn't go on a date unless i know for sure what Sean's intentions are.... Sean said "i care for you." He called me his woman. He said i was a good woman. And also said he felt like he owed me dinner. I guess because of all the great sex we've had... i don't know. I normally don't take him serious but a part of me Saturday night thought i shouldn't go out with someone else and possibly kiss them... would that be betrayal....
Now, if Sean doesn't call me for a week or so, then i'd go out. that's an indication that nothing has changed between us.... So, instead I went to the karaoke bar Saturday night and didn't call Penn to join me.
But wouldn't ya know it, Jimmy called me at 9:00 pm saturday wanting to know if was going to the bar. He wanted to meet me since he was off... But it was kinda akward. He bought me a drink.... I played some pool and won three games in a row. Jimmy hung around but didn't make conversation. I thought to myself, "hey it's not my job to keep things interesting between us... if he doesn't know what to say to me... his loss.." If he really wanted to ask me out he should of suggested leaving somewhere to get a bite to eat.. But he didn't and I left early.
I called Penn on sunday and let this message. "sorry we didn't get together this weekend. bad timing. perhaps we'll have better luck in the future. call me."
I wanted to ask some of my guy friends advice about Sean... do guys asks girls to be their girlfriend or do people just assume. I've been thinking about Alison's question to me about putting myself out there... hmmm....
I don't want things to end and i don't really care if they move forward.. i like things as they are with Sean... But at the same time, i don't want to do something that would seem like a betrayal if i'm his implied girlfriend. kwim.
Loonybunny ~ yes, i know i'm insane.

I wish I were double - booked once in awhile.
I would say that if you really want a guy who wants to date you and have a relationship with you, keep dating and do not get stuck on one or hope they will switch from FWB to someone who is that into you and really exclusive. I think Sean is wanting to spend time here and there but does not have a real strong romantic interest - he is waffling and he wanted the sex right off the bat.
I think Penn is the best that you write about so far because he is calling and wanting to make plans somewhat in advance. Hopefully the next time he calls, you can make plans with him and just chat and be with him and see if there is a spark.
I think you should "keep on movin' along" so to speak with all of them - don't get too stuck on one unless he is hot in pursuit and calling on a regular basis and asking you a lot of questions and wanting to plan dates in advance and expresses interest in you.
When they want a relationship they make that very well known by doing romantic things and acting nervous and calling in advance to plan dates and asking lots of questions. When they want sex they call at the last minute, call late at night and come on really strong sexually right from the beginning.
Well, Penn doesn't sound like ... well... I don't like him LOL!
I returned Penn's call tonight. My cell phone batteries were low so we couldn't talk long... He's still at work... he started his 12 hour days. But he still asked what i was doing later. I told him Mondays are my Heroes night on tv. He said he would call again tomorrow.
As for Sean, true he still doesn't call me "just to talk". I knew when i got involved with him it would be only sex... Just some of the stuff he's been saying lately ... i ask myself, why would he say he "cares" about me now... i mean that was never a requirement before for getting sex... (and he said it afterwards)
I don't have a problem with our relationship as it is... i don't have time for a fulltime relationship. (maybe i'm the commitment phobe). I just had thoughts this weekend "did something change?" and didn't want to misinterpret his intentions...
And it brought up nightmare memories of the last time i asked a guy about his intentions (5 yrs ago).. that person took it the wrong way and got offended... as if i was saying i wanted to sleep around. But after i cleared up what i was saying, we were officially boyfriend-girlfriend after that conversation. I think Sean and I have an understanding that we aren't sleeping with anyone else.. (we had that conversation)... but as far as dating others..... maybe i'm gray on that....
I should probably continue to date date date.. until a guy asks me not too.... and STOP second guessing myself. Phew.
Loonybunny