This weekends date update
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| Mon, 02-04-2008 - 10:02am |
Ok, I know I'm going to be some VERY serious flack here, but all in all, I don't care. You are all my friends and although we don't always have to agree, we are still the cyber family! So that means, I feel I always have to share everything. LOL
I was supposed to go out on Friday with my meetup group and I double booked myself with my grocery guy. I wasn't sure if I wanted to bring him along or not. Wellllllll, that didn't happen. We talked a little this week and I just think he has WAY to much friends stuff going on. and lot's of other volunteer stuff. Which is fine, but he ended up cancelling at the last minute to go do some friends things this weekend and I decided to meet my friends at the meetup. So I'm REALLY not concerned if it works out or not, I am just doing my own thing.
Anyway... at the meetup, I met some really great people and this one guy just basically all but cornered me for a conversation. Very good looking and he and i ended up having lot's in common. He was born in Germany like I was, he spoke it too, so we exchanged a little German dialogue and we had the same likes and dislikes. Then he stepped on my toes and this is when I started getting defensive....
FIRST, he asked me what I did professionally and I told him I was an Event Planner, to which he said, you can't possibly have a lot to do here in the Charlotte area on events. I thought that was pretty procoscious of him and I said, no, but I'm not one for the area, I'm the lead for North America and we have plenty to do.
THEN, because he was such a b-head, I asked him what he did. He said he was a Doctor. I asked what kind, he said plastic surgeon, to which I replied I couldn't possibly date a plastic surgeon, because I would never want to change myself. To which he said, maybe not now but you will in 5 years, because all of his X girlfriends said the same. To which I replied, maybe you made them feel that way. I even tested it out and he failed the test. I scrunch my forehead when thinking of something or looking quizicle and he pointed out my wrinkle between my brow. I said, I'm sure you can fix that, right?
So we again did the subject change.
So then we talked some more and he said a few things that really irritated me and asked what my story was. I said story? Yes, if I was divorced, or separated or never married.
Well, I am divorced with two kids ages 14 and 7. so he says! And?? Why the age difference in the kids? Did you marry twice and divorce twice??? I asked him why he thought that and he said, because the kids are so far apart. ANYWAY, needless to say, I changed the subject and never answered. I just told him I thought that was an interesting question and that we were getting into some deep conversation that should be more light.
Well on the subject of my having kids, his interest soon was no longer with me. Which was fine by me, because I had already told him I wouldn't date a plastic surgeon. My girlfriends thought I lost it. They said, here is one of the most eligible bachelors in town and you tell him your not interested. I said, yes, but it would have happened anyway, had he known about me having kids. So it basically evened itself out afterall.
Then I met a guy that was best friends with someone I dated. Not relationship material, but very very nice. He was delighted to see me and asked if we wanted to get our kids together again sometime to go bowling with them. We took them to a hockey game last year, when I was dating his friend and we hung out, but after Sean and I broke up, I didn't contact G anymore. I did't think I should. Anway, G, showed great interest in me and so we'll see if we go out and doing something with our kids or not. I asked him if he feels odd asking me out if he's friends with Sean and he said no, Sean has a girlfriend. To which I replied, yes, the same one he cheated on me with. LOL. He looked stunned that I knew, but I told him I know everything, so we just changed the subjectc after that. He just said, well, it wouldn't be date, it would be hanging out with our kids. I said, true. The kids liked each other. And NO, he's not relationship material. He's happy being a loner and he has always said, that he doesn't think he'd ever like someone long enough to want to live and marry them. He's 40, never been married and he likes his peace and quiet. I know him well enough to know that won't change. But he's very nice and great fun to talk to.
Ok.... soooo here is the no-no I did. My Brit contacted me and asked if he couldn't sway me afterall. He's been trying to sway me for awhile now and i have said no. Welll.... I crashed and burned ladies. I have been swayed. I was wayyy to tempted by his invite. He wanted to take me out to this fabulous restaurant but I said no, I would love him to cook for me. He's a terrific chef on top of everything else. I rather stay in with him and let him spoil me in his home then go out someplace. He has terrific wine, great food, beautiful home, jacuzzi and he's a romantic. I was so ready for some cuddling, that I just finally caved in. And to absolutely blow his mind, I did something I've never done before with anyone. LOL.
I dressed up in my long winter coat, my stilleto shoes and this VERY sexy

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Cat, you are just too gorgeous for your own good!
That is fabulous!
April
Is he unwilling to commit to more
April
OMG this story is better than watching any movie! WOW - you are so creative and how crazy is that - to always be fighting him and saying no and then that surprise with the shoes and the outfit. I am going to remember that one!!! LOL!!!!!!!!!
I agree with you on the plastic surgeon, by the way!!
I really have to laugh, because I was thinking the EXACT same thing when I thought about surprising him. LOL. He spent weeks trying to get me to stay over and I kept saying, no, no, no and then suddenly bam, their I am in outfit and all. LOL. Totally blew him away. He was just stunned. Not to mention, I really surprised myself. I never thought I'd have the guts to try that, but I did and he was the right one to try it with.
It was great to see moreso because he was in his usual wonderful chatty self, not expecting a thing out of the ordinary. It was great and he deserved it, because for two years he's been
I agree with lonleymom.
Well you will think of something to beat it. Why do you see him as just FWB? I forget - so forgive if you have explained it elsewhere? Maybe this is like rlch's LB. You guys are so good at the FWB thing - I am one of those stupid sappy chicks that can't do that.
What did he say about the outfit? Good thing he didn't burn the dinner?
At least you are having fun and you do know what you want with regards to dating - not like you are doing this and then trying to turn it around. You have handled those before okay.
When we were together, he would
Wow, Cat! I was reading your update like a great romance and suspense book, a page turner, I was glued! It's bittersweet, knowing the connection and great physically compatibility but having to guard yourself emotionally. I don't think you have to worry about anyone here judging you for "caving". Everyone desires to feel close to someone and next to someone, even if the forecasted outcome could be turbulent. It sounds like Brit guy missed your closeness as well, and I can only imagine how surprised he was!
I admire your sense of adventure and
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