a weird dream for Pacific to interpret

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a weird dream for Pacific to interpret
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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 1:24pm

I had the oddest, most realistic dream last night--when I woke up I was actually disorriented--it was that real!

April

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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 1:57pm
I've had that before with Alex's Dad before I detested him, I was still in love with him for YEARS and YEARS, but always refused to take him back, although I loved him so very much. I knew he was rotten to the core and that he would never change, but my dreams were so vivid that I would hook up that I would feel really upset when waking up. It just shook me to the core for days afterwards that I still had dreams about him years on out, when I knew I would never ever go back to him anyway.
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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 2:05pm

Hi April,


Believe it or not, these kinds of dreams are common!


Dreams about an ex- as disturbing and weird as they may seem are common. Here's the reason. The subconscious and dreaming mind uses the idea of sex, getting together, intimacy, as a symbol for attempting to get along on an idea or to be able to communicate and "get together" on the same plane or page. How do you normally get along with him? Is there a situation at hand that you need to be more together about? Often times the dream of this kind is saying that you desire to reconnect on certain level. It does not mean that you desire to be with them again intimately.


There are very common dreams where people dream that they kiss someone that in real life they are not even remotely attracted to. Like a coworker, boss, or ever a brother or sister or family member. The dream is trying to symbolize a "getting along", a wanting to be on good term. Dreams can be pretty dramatic in order to get a point across, and the subconscious mind does not have the same social hangups and faux pas that we know in reality. It is really interesting...the dreaming mind is much like the innocence of a child. A kiss can solve everything right, lol? It's a symbol for bringing together and accepting, and connecting with another.


In the dream you were discussing his divorce (not in reality). The divorce can symbolize a mistake or painful issue that you are intuitively feeling that he might be dealing with. You might be visiting a painful past where inside you felt that your split with him had a lot to do with mistakes he has made. The dream can be a symbol for accepting this past, integrating an understanding it, perhaps. Are there any issues that have come up lately, with the ex?


~Pacific~
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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 2:09pm

Cat- that's a gret exaple of the child like nature of the dreaming mind! You had a real reason to need cooperation with him, because he is Alex's dad. The dreaming mind just finds something vivid to symbolize agreement and cooperation or lessining the pain of differences...like a kiss or even sex. What a way to symbolize it, right? Well at least it gets our attention :O)


~Pacific~
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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 2:17pm

Interesting!

April

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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 2:31pm

Yes, I would think so! It sounds to me that the issue with your DD is something that your dreaming mind would like to see resolved...the two of you "coming together" on this issue.


I love how dreams will spell these things out for us. It simply blows me away! Your quite welcome for the interpretation, and you can ask anytime :o)

~Pacific~
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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 4:03pm

WOW! I really loved the way you analyzed that one! Because I never wanted to get together with him, but I longed for him to want to be a part of Alex's life and I wanted him to get on our same page. Not have him back, but have him as part of our life.


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Thu, 01-31-2008 - 4:10pm

Exactly! Your scenario fits the dream to

~Pacific~