Weird insecurities

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Weird insecurities
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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 10:28pm

I don't know why I can never "just be" and enjoy life. LOL.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 10:13am

I can totally relate to househunting being a stress.. STRESS. Last year we started looking casually.. but me being what I am- I get totally sucked up in anything I start.. So there is this online resource (mls propertyfinder)..and that was the first thing and last I would look each day.. Summer is a good time to buy. By december all good houses are gone. So I was panicking-.. Really I should have relaxed. We did put down offer for few houses . But they all wanted more- and guesswhat, they finally sold for what we offered or less. By then we had lost interest.


Now that Biker is living in a condo- which is colonial style, we have realiised we dont want that many stairs. We feel that it is bit disconnecting- between kitchen and bedroom and all the stairs. I think if we had grown up kids that would be nice. But to start with just two of us we think a ranch or split entry is good.. or even a townhouse.


So our preference has changed now. We are looking very slowly now- not obsessing about it. Coz I know I feel stressed if I obsess about anything- I just want it doen..lol.


I would say think about housing only one hour a day. Do you have an agent yet? We had an agent, but we felt she was even less our of market trends than I was .. of course I spent lots of time readinga nd exploring. she used to say I could be a good agent..lol... coz all teh houses I narrowed down were great. and I kept track of tehm so well. Biker used to say I am the rpimary agent.. Needless to say we fired her.. Coz really she was nto doing any work.. Next time we look, we will get a better agent and I wont worry about searching too much..She/he should

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 1:08pm

Isys-


I had to chime in here, as I have felt these insecurities, too. I don't know where they come from. But just out of the blue sometimes something really tiny will make me think bad things. I have to stop and tell myself not to sweat the small stuff and to look at all the things that point to his comittment and love for me.


You don't need a slap...you need to know we have all felt those insecurities! I bet the EG wants to find ways for you two to travel together, hence the frequent flyer CC :o)


~Pacific~
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 1:18pm
Actually noooooooo.
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Registered: 11-22-2006
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 9:02pm
Oh I know I know the mls thing....god help me. God help us all, every one of us in this house. It has been an obsession lately and it fortunately has dwindled in the past week because I had to take on the task of refiling my taxes from 2006 because of a mistake that would effect us and finally filing 2007. SYB still has to do his. Mine were much more complicated because I freelance and I own my own business so it got very chaotic with all of the documentation and 1099s sprawled around the house. I somehow managed to get both years of taxes done and off to the accountant ( I have no idea what is left to do there except pick the right forms and type in the numbers at this point) teach a full schedule of classes and perform this weekend to boot. I had a fairly large spat with SYB because he wasnt being as busy of a bee as I am and he ended up apologizing. I basically told him that if he wants his normal woman back he needs to get up and help me get this paper work done so I can stop thinking about it. I dont need to have bought a house to calm down but I need the lender part over with. It is really getting to me.
And I am practicing Tchaikovsky right now because I am playing it in a few months out of state. The practice takes so much focus and patience on my part and leaves nothing left for anything else like this real estate stuff. I want so badly to get excited about all of this but he is not on the same speed as I am or something. He seems all for buying a house - says he wants it - but getting the stuff done necessary isnt hitting him as emergent as it does me. I am sure he will get it done but I am going to have to fight off the urge to nudge him about it and just let time pass. I am definitely crabby. I really would like to get some of this done and out of my funk by our anniversary which is in a few weeks!
You'll be proud to know that I only looked at real estate once today. And I dont plan to tonight:)
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