Well, I did it... ...

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Well, I did it... ...
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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 12:12am

... I stayed true to myself.

I love S, but I wasn't happy. I need more communication than he was able to give- and being a distance relationship, you need MORE than a "regular" one.

I'd rather be single and open to a great match than in a relationship feeling happy only part of the time.

I'm feeling pretty wound up, but better :)

The boy

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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 1:00am

HUGS Ali... Even though you are tough and strong I want to let you know that I admire and support you and the conscious and challenging decision that you made.

Best,
Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Registered: 09-28-2008
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 1:03am
(((HUGS))) I am glad you stayed true to who you are. That is a good lesson.
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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 6:31am
I know exactly what you mean. Staying in a relationship that is OK but not great just keeps you from finding someone who does give you everything you need and really compliments you. I heard a great quote the other day- Don't block the blessing!
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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 6:34am

Thanks Mark. It was a hard decision to make, but I had to do it. I wasn't getting enough to feel happy, and I want happy.

It's scary to face being alone again, but I'd rather do this and be open to find the love I want than to feel stuck waiting for it WITH someone.

Who knows what the future holds :)

The boy

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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 6:36am
It is a good lesson and one that took *cough* 10 months to make.
The boy

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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 6:40am

Yes, that is true. Love the quote :)

The thing is, I LOVE to interact with my friends, my family and my partner. I give out a LOT of love to those in my world and try to live by the old, "you get what you give".

Those of you that know me well, know what a happy and fun loving person I am, and when I realized how I was losing that from being unhappy in my love life, I didn't want to lose myself. I lost myself to ANGER being with Nicolas' dad, and I didn't want to lose myself to sorrow.

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Thu, 10-30-2008 - 7:09am

Its a tough decision to make isnt it. I know what its like. I still love RG. But youre right. You cant open up that parking space when someone else is in it. Long distance is hard too. Theres no way it can work without communication.

Take care of you right now.

Laurie

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Registered: 03-30-2008
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 7:22am
Good for you! Onward and upward!
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Registered: 08-23-2006
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 8:32am
I'm sorry you had to do that, but it sounds like you made the right decision for yourself. Sending lots of virtual chocolate your way. Dark or milk?
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Registered: 02-15-2008
Thu, 10-30-2008 - 9:04am

((((hugs))))) Al!

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