Well, I get the Here's your sign today

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Well, I get the Here's your sign today
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Sat, 06-21-2008 - 10:18am

Yep thats right.

 

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 06-21-2008 - 11:32am

I don't think YOU need a sign- I think HE does.


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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 06-21-2008 - 12:24pm

I don't know if I would've Next'd him for the momma's boy thing as much as I would've for the text accusing you of flirting, when you were only talking with friends. He wasn't close enough to even HEAR what you were saying- so how could he accuse you of anything?? Sheesh....


I'm close to my parents and spend alot of time with them sometimes. Now that Mom is gone- I know how I value the time I get with Dad while we still have time left. So I would be more lenient about the mom-time he is spending. But I would've been a bit upset about hearing about the family party but not getting invited. Especially when he KNOWS you are kid-free and available. Apparently things are just not that serious to him. But yet he feels the need to chastise you for "flirting" at the baseball game?!??


NEXT!!!!!!!

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Sat, 06-21-2008 - 12:38pm

Well that is so NOT cool...the who hanging up thing and there is something really off about the family dinner (your not being invited) AND the actual b-day being with mom also. It seems weird to me. Not to mention that at this point why would he not want to take you to a familiy dinner? You took him to a wedding! Whats up with that? He does not seem to communicate well when you confront him either. I think I'm with you and the rest here..I'd let him know its just not going well and end it. Unless you feel there is something worth saving and in that case you would have to see if he is willing to talk things out. If in fact his family/mom is that important now it will likely always be that way!


Sorry things are not on the upswing with GPS..

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Registered: 11-22-2006
Sat, 06-21-2008 - 6:44pm
Aww crap that really sucks. I had a very bad reaction to reading that he texted you about flirting like that too when as Shrimpy pointed out - he couldnt even hear what you were saying! And he cant have his birthday cake and eat it too, you know? He cant claim you as his own (ICK) restricting you from "flirting" ( haha) being all insecure and controlling like you are exclusive and he is the MAN and then .....drum roll.....exclude you from the dang family bday party. I call foul on that one.
Good for you though for nexting him - now not only can he not have his birthday cake but he doesnt get to eat it either - ok that didnt make any sense....lol but you get my point.
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Sat, 06-21-2008 - 7:28pm

That is all a bad time for you for sure - I would not like the over-the-top immature accusing text bit, with the failure to include you on the family party or at the very least find a way to include you for at least some of his birthday - like maybe his mom doesn't have a lot of room in her house or didn't think to invite you because they always did it that way and it was just thrown together at the last minute and he is not good at bringing stuff like that up with er - but he could have said oh wow - you are kid free and I want to see you why don't you come for cake - something at least. And then hanging up. The hanging up thing is bad, especially when this is so hurtful. That is like pow pow pow - too many blasts of bad all at once.

I don't know. How has all of the other times been? I remember some other problems and you broke up but then sorted it out?

I am trying NOT to say NEXT too too quick - but I did date, marry and divorce a mama's boy whose mama didn't like me and she had an entitlement attitude and hold over him. It was all just very bad and I do not ever want to repeat that.

It seems that he should have planned ahead better and discussed this better.

I just thought of one more thing - do you think it is possible that they planned all of this before you got back together - didn't you break up for a while and then get back together? Are you sure he was not joking with that text?

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Sun, 06-22-2008 - 7:45am
I do not understand why he can't ask you to his family birthday celebration.
I am really close to mt Mum, but even so why can't he include you? Sounds like you just aren't that important to him .........

 



Tracy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-22-2008 - 11:11am

Nah, lol, I'll take the sign.

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-22-2008 - 11:17am

I can appreciate a close relationship with family and I do try to understand the mother-child relationship through my children.

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-22-2008 - 11:28am

Darling things aren't swinging any way with him, up down or all around, LOL.


That was SO not cool hanging up on me.

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-22-2008 - 11:36am

LOL!!!

 

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