Well, I wrote him an email.......
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| Wed, 04-13-2005 - 3:16pm |
I always need positive thoughts, soooooooooo....
After analyzing for the last 3 days, I finally decided to write Scott (alexs dad) and find out WHY he has this need to fly down and ruin my vacation. Ok, well, I didn't put it exactly that way.
I wrote him that I wanted to remind him that I would be flying alone and therefore, I didn't really see a point why he had to fly down. If he wanted to talk about Alex, then he could pick up the phone and call me or send me an email.
I continued to tell him, that I want no drama if he still has a need to come and talk to me face to face, but that he has to be darn sure if he's going to do that, because then I have a few things that I will want to pin him on. Childsupport, Paternity papers, Birthcertificate papers, Father figure, etc. etc. So I just listed those things and explained the definition of each. I told him under no cirmcumstances is he to ruin my vacation with rudeness, yelling or selfishness. He would either meet me half way and respect what I am saying and we can talk like grown up or he should stay away.
Of course I said everything on the border of "nice and straight" to the "don't mess with me" line.
I asked him to let me know this way or that because I hate suprises and I have better things to plan if he decides otherwise and doesn't show.
I wonder if I'll hear from him. Sigh... Why do I always choose the creeps? So positive thoughts that he does write back and positive thoughts that I don't get angry all over again. (like I'm starting to feel now) ARGH!

Good going - I love what you wrote!!
Keep us posted!!
I like what you wrote Cat.
Drama king may have to "get real"... :)
Good thoughts coming your way.
Hi Catherine
I wonder at the statement you made to him that if "he still has a need to talk to you face to face". Who cares if he has a need to do that? It doesn't sound like that would in anyway be beneficial to you and probably will upset you and put a damper on your trip. I think you should just tell him to email you or call you with whatever it is so you can totally avoid the drama altogether. Do you feel you have a need to talk to him face to face?
Just my two cents for what it's worth.
When are you leaving for the U.S. again? Coming soon , right?
Hugs
Tara
Sending you positive vibes Cat!
I think it was a good idea that you messaged him and let him know the terms of seeing you. It's only fair that he would have the pay the piper if he wants to crash your party. Good luck!
Amy
I totally agree and include my own positive vibes! I am curious what he has to say to you that he feels he needs to say in person, but I think it's good that you set the ground rules and won't allow him to ruin your vacation.
Is it a vacation or your move to the states?
Jessie (here in SC)
Cat,
I sure hope you have internet access on your vacation - we will want updates on all of this!! I always have so much fun in the morning reading all of your posts - you have us spoiled being on European time - we will miss that when you are stateside.
Vacation in 12 days; Moving in 9-10 months.
NC here I come!
OH DEFINTELY! I'll have to write about my vacation romance, my pitfalls and my adventures...
Don't worry sweetie, I'll set my alarm for 2am and then start writing then when you are all asleep. So when you wake up, you read the storie of my life with tears of laughter in your eyes, as I again step into something inappropriate.