Well, its that time of year
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| Wed, 11-07-2007 - 12:03pm |
The holiday season is upon us. Christmas decorations are making their way out into department stores and holiday times are being planned by most. This is my second holiday season since splitting with the ex and we have settled into a routine and things are finally going well for us.
Our holidays are split so I have the children with me for Thanksgiving. I don't have any family and most of my friends are not from this area and are traveling to see family members. So it will be just the four of us. I'm planning to make a traditional meal for us, maybe watch some parades play outside in the leaves. We have the entire weekend and it will mostly just be like any other day as there really isn't anything "special" going on for us this year. But we will have fun and lots of time together.
They are to be with their dad and his family for Christmas. That hasn't totally been worked out yet as they usually spend their time with their dad at Grandma's house. This year grandma is expecting her oldest son and his family traveling in from out of town so most likely doesn't have the room for them. I'm not quite sure how it will all work. I haven't really made any firm plans for myself as I don't know whether or not they will be spending the time with me or not. I have to say that if they aren't actually staying with their dad, he won't be seeing them. I will not be a slave to whatever they want to do. I will either have them spend the time with me or him but I won't shuffle them back and forth and have my holiday ruined. I feel like I'm being a little harsh but I know I have to do what is best for me too and spending most of the time crying and having dinner alone because he can't do what he needs to is not an option. He needs to grow up and figure it all out. So as of right now I may be traveling with or without kids or just staying around. I need to figure it all out by the time Thanksgiving is over so that I can get everything in place.
So how is everyone else doing on the holiday plans? Anything fun? Traveling? Staying home? have the kids for both holidays? Neither? Split?
Priscilla

"I won't shuffle them back and forth and have my holiday ruined..."
GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I loved reading that.
I am blessed to have DS this year. I will have him Xmas morning and probably let him go to his dad's house in the evening because his dad is in town. So it is a truly blessed year for me. Like you, I skip years and the years without DS for Xmas are truly my hardest. I don't think there is any worse post-divorce pain than having to spend a holiday without your own kid so my heart goes out to you. I am keeping fingers crossed that you get them at least some of the time and or you can find something good for you to do.
Keep us posted!
I've been catching up, and boy you all have been busy in the few days since I've been here!
as for my holiday plans, they are as simple as they can be.
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We are totally up in the air sort of, b/c of X not having visitation right now. So ... i am sure she will NOT be doing an overnite with him by T-day, even IF he is given visitation back (which by his behavior this week, I cant really see happening!)
I work 3p-11p T-day. SO, i will take dd to a T-day brunch at noonish, & as long as there is no visit with her Dad, I will bring her to my X-sil's (the one who divorced X's brother, lol, but we are still VERY close). Her 18 yr old dd, Aves cousin will be there - & her 2 nephews & 1 neice, all little kids, will also be there. So basically whiel I work, dd will be with them & i will get her after work - unless she decides to sleep there.
As for Xmas, the GOOD thing about X being so screwed up is he never ever has followed any kind of visitation schedule, so i can pretty much dictate what he takes her - b/c if he ever DID try to pull "this is MY holiday" .. he couldnt prove it since he never BEGAN the holiday rotation schdeule.
SO - i work 3p-11p Xmas eve. Not sure what dd will do them. Maybe by then, she can spend it with her dad like last year, & then i picked her up XMas morning.