Well, maybe I am a little shallow

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Well, maybe I am a little shallow
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Wed, 09-17-2008 - 10:27pm
So doctorate biochemistry guy emails me back. He doesn't actually have a job right now. Hmmm...I don't think I have time for a guy who doesn't have a job. So maybe I am shallow. We do both have a love of music and he is writing and producing which I find intriquing but again, not looking for a guy still trying to find his way. Aye yaye yaye....darn he is cute though
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Registered: 03-25-2002
Wed, 09-17-2008 - 10:44pm

that's the thing about young hotties. Very cute but not stable.


Doesn't bother me though...


just one date or two won't hurt. i think you should still go out with him. ;-)

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 10:48am

Do you know WHY he doesn't have a job?


I'm with you, though - I don't think I could get involved with someone who wasn't stable.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 10:55am

Not shallow...practical and safe! I couldnt even consider picking up with someone without stability in their life. No way no thanks...they make hunky calendars for a fix of some beefcake. Hang in there Savannah.


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Registered: 10-07-2005
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 11:01am

Hmmm... that's a tough call. Since there's a lot of interest otherwise, why not chat a little more to see what the deal is? Is he off work recently and out there looking? Does he have some money in the bank to hold him over while he's looking? We've all gone through periods where we're looking for work, but it's how we deal with that, and plan for it that shows who we are.

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 12:10pm

I don't think that is shallow. You have the right to be selective! Why settle?


He sounds cool enough to chat with though, as friends maybe?

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 4:16pm

He asked if I would be interested in talking on the phone. On one hand he is cute and there is some similar interest. I just don't want instability. It does warrant more information though so I will find out more. If he is financially responsible and either planned for not working as he finished up school or if it is just that he doesn't have the career job from his degree yet. Basically how is he supporting himself. My ex lost his job last February and still hasn't found work in his field yet but he isn't exactly hurting for money and he is doing other work right now.

Now, the real question...am I ready to talk on the phone!!!! Yikes