well, a response

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well, a response
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 9:42am

from Trav came today. It said that

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 9:54am

I really like that you are staying true to yourself. You are able to articulate your feelings very well - it is good how you say your feelings for him are still crazy but your feelings to yourself have changed and you are not going to settle.

The only question I might have is what exactly do you want? You never really spell that out bluntly. I don't think you should leave that to an assumption. Especially if you want a guy to assume...

And I would love to see how you articulate/write what you want.

May you have strength and wisdom to see you through. Keep us posted!!

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 10:05am

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 10:08am

THAT is absolutely BEAUTIFUL. I think you should send that to him. It spells it out exactly.

I would not expect an immediate response, though. I think he has to think about it - let it settle in.

You never know, he might surprise you!!

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 10:29am
depending on what response I get I may send it to him the next round. If I get a "no way I am changing anything"...it will be a moot point.
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 10:31am
Good point.
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 10:57am

GREAT job Candi! Gosh, that took so much courage and I am PROUD OF YOU WOMAN!


I hope you hear exactly what you dream of hearing. But if you don't, I know you'll be just as proud of yourself as we all are for being clear with your needs and what you feel you deserve without all of the game playing.


Hug hug hug

Becky

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:54am

Candi,

He reailly kind of left you hanging. He made you wait a while for a response and he ended the email with "call me" and he knows you don't have his phone number. Be on guard. It sounds like he's trying to be in touch with you without giving you anything in return. He should have been a man and called you when he got your email. He should have said, "heck, yes, I want to see you again...and, no, I'm not seeing anyone else. Please give me another chance."

Something like that would have been good. Stick to your guns and don't budge for him. Make him work very hard to get back with you. HUGS

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 12:06pm

I am not making it easy on him, trust me.


I also know that due to his job, there are weeks at a time when he is not in a place where electronics, or sometimes even phone service, is available.


I don't think he was off having fun when we weren't communicating. I know most of the time he was sleeping on the ground, not showering for days at a time, and people were shooting at him. He was losing friends and colleagues on a regular basis and not sure whether it would be him next. It's not like he was trying to slight me, it's just the nature of his job.


I don't honestly know if he CAN give me more. It's sad, but...not something I can help or that I'm responsible for. Sometimes, no matter how much you like someone, timing just isn't right.

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 12:54pm
That's such a fantastic response. Kudos to you for sticking to your guns. It's the only way to get what you want out of a relationship.
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 1:43pm

Thanks!


I wonder though, are men REALLY that stupid? do they really NOT know what we want?


*raised eyebrow*

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