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Well, this should be interesting...
| Mon, 03-21-2005 - 10:20am |
I'm sending J flowers to her office today.
I figure either she'll think I'm the greatest guy on earth, or some nut-job psycho stalker.
I wonder if she will call when she gets them?
Opinions?

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Well, did she tell you where she worked or did you have her followed to find out where? If she willingly told you the name of her employer, then my guess is she is going to be touched by the gesture and that all day women will be walking by her desk and saying "That is soooooo sweet I wish someone would send me flowers, you better hold onto this one!"
What did your note say?
If she calls, you must let us know what she says!
J did tell me who her employer was....a department in the state government, so the State website had the street address.
The note said....
J-
You've brightened my thoughts. I hope these will brighten your day.
B-
I sent bright-colored tulips.
That sounds perfect, especially given the season! The note is perfect, very very very sweet.
Is this your usual MO? Sounds almost like you're experimenting with it.
The only guy I know that sent flowers to a friend's office that soon went WAY too fast altogether. They married too quick and are miserable now.
A phone call would be what I'd prefer after a second date (and it was your first real evening date, right? after an afternoon "let's meet" thing?). Flowers would make me hope he wasn't a stalker. :)
After a month, flowers would be wonderful. And I'd feel there was a real reason to send them.
Just my opinion.
But what's happened to good old fashioned romance and chivalry Candi? Used to be when a man courted a woman he WOULD bring flowers (and sometimes to her MOM too!) and it was expected and appreciated...but not a presumption that things would be permamant and she "owed" him something.
I think of a gesture like Brian's as being a very complimentary thing. Sort of a "flowers a beautiful and you are too. I had a lovely time. Thank you." statement ...
I think we've all gotten too damn cynical. Just my two cents. ;)
It's only experimental in the fact that I've not had the opportunity to send anyone flowers since my divorce started.
We've had two legitimate dates...the first was dinner....about 3 hours long and the second was a movie and coffee. She actually cuddled up to me in the movie (which felt VERY right).
On the stalker notion....IMO, I don't think there are many of those with my demographics. Two kids, PCP, etc.
LOL, hey, he asked for opinions...I gave mine. Sooooorrrry. :)
1) I'm NOT an old fashioned woman...so if he came to pick me up in a horse and buggy, even with matching white horses...I'd be turned off.
2) the only guys who came on that showy that soon with me DID want something. So call it cynicism, or call it experience...it's just what I have seen.
I'm not saying you are a stalker, you asked for opinions.
Two of the creepiest guys I dated were PCP's. One with one son, one with two kids.
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