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Well, this should be interesting...
| Mon, 03-21-2005 - 10:20am |
I'm sending J flowers to her office today.
I figure either she'll think I'm the greatest guy on earth, or some nut-job psycho stalker.
I wonder if she will call when she gets them?
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oH, and beck...this is the day of online dating. You don't KNOW the boy next door, or down the street, who you've gone to school with for years. Or at least your cousin knew him and could vouch. You're meeting someone for the first time with an online date, starting from scratch.
A good dose of cynicism can keep you out of a world of hurt.
I think it's just common sense.
If J is comfortable with it, and brian is mr nice guy...more power to them.
I think you totally have to go with your gut on something like this (meaning Brian has to go with his gut). She was snuggling with him on date #2, so it doesn't seem to me that she'd be put off by flowers. But maybe she will, who knows.
I have never received flowers and if someone I really liked sent me some and said they just wanted to brighten my day, I'd probably cry. It's just a really nice gesture. Either way though, flowers are not going to change the course of a relationship. If you think the guy is creepy, you aren't going to like him more if he sends flowers (but you also probably wouldn't cuddle with him in a movie). If you do like him, flowers aren't going to make you not like him (unless he had to stalk you in order to find out where you worked, which means you were not ready to disclose such personal information yet, which means you'd be freaked by getting flowers at work).
Edited 3/21/2005 2:16 pm ET ET by firstamendment
That is SO sweet! I would melt if that happened to me!!
Edited to put in my two cents worth after reading ALL of the posts - LOL!
This is totally okay for flowers this soon BECAUSE they met on eharmony - that site requires your whole life history - over an hour - just for the profile - and there is extensive communication before you even meet....
additionally - it is tulips with a sweet note - not like a huge bouquet of red roses - and the fact that she cuddled shows it is mutual.
I keep my fingers crossed for you both!! (and for me, too)
Edited 3/21/2005 2:31 pm ET ET by west1745
Eharmony collects information on your personality and draws up a personality profile for you. You are then matched up with ppl whose personalities would compliment yours. Although they don't do background checks on ppl, the fact that the questionnaire takes so long to fill out (over an hour, as West said) and that the site is so expensive to use seems to weed out a lot of ppl who would not be serious about the process. You do not pick your own matches, they are given to you. The process is very slow and guarded to protect ppl from getting hurt or moving too fast. It is quite a while before ppl even have open communication. Seems a lot of trouble for a would be stalker. I know that if they feel they cannot match you perfectly, then they won't even try. They'll send you a notice saying, sorry, can't do it. I'm assuming that if a person appeared unstable then they wouldnt be matched. The personality profiling is extremely accurate (btw, its free to fill out the questionnaire and get a personality analysis). It would take a lot of laborious lying to fill out such an extensive form and come out with a consistent personality that made you look like something you are not. I'm assuming that you would have to be a very serious nutcase to be able to do that and not just your average dishonest guy (or gal.)
But enough of that...my opinion about the flowers is that it is really nice, considering that J and Brian have already exchanged so much infor, had some nice dates and done some cuddling. The message was simple and that what makes it appropriate or not, in my mind. If Brian had told her that he was falling for her, or some other loaded message then that might scare her away. (On the other hand, maybe it wouldn't. When ppl find their soul mates....hey that's a good thread
Amy
BTW what does PCP mean?
PCP = Primary Custodial Parent (I think). In any case it means he's got the children most of the time.
I agree with you, the note that comes with the flowers says a lot. I really liked Brian's note, it was just right IMHO, plus the tulips, it's spring, he said he hoped they would "brighten" her day, and then sent "bright" tulips. I felt touched and I didn't even get flowers!
By sheer persistence.
You have to answer 500 questions. And it costs more money to join than most sites. It asks a lot of very intelligent questions.
That is by no means fool proof - but it is a lot more work and effort than yahoo personals or match.com
I have to ask....
Are *ALL* of my posts going to get such a wild set of responses?
LOL!
I don't think all of them have and I don't think this was wild. It's just called discussion.
Why does it seem wild to you?
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