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| Fri, 12-15-2006 - 2:22am |
a couple (ok, Three ... ok, maybe 4, lol) guys since my D, I have some experience. & as comfortable as I am with my body, knowing its FAR from perfect totally freaks me out a bit about someone new seeing it naked!


"But mostly, if you ask any GUY, what they think about during sex is NOT your belly or your stretch marks. If they want to get you in bed, then they are attracted to you. & yes, we see WAY more than they see. We are our own worst critics."
Totally true!
I know if a guy is wanting to be with you, he's not going to freak out when you take off the clothes and run away screaming!
Seriously?
First of all I know EXACTLY what you mean about being uncomfortable around a man other than your ex. It's been two years since my separation and the second guys is the one i tell you I've been looking for.
He tells me ALL the time about how beautiful I am. At 5 foot 9 inches and 205 lbs I'm not the magazine ideal. haha but then who is right? anyway he told me before we actually saw each other (were hs friends that reconnected through myspace 14 years after graduation) that hollywood's idea of beautiful isn't what all guys want. he would rather have a real woman with real "curves and body shapes" including the boobs that aren't where they were pre three births than a woman that is plastic and fake. he has followed through with those words ever since.
Secondly, you are gorgeous completely. That 45 year old man keep him!!!!!
Wow! After all the success you've had with attracting men, you're still insecure about the looks thing. I guess it is our culture. I have to tell you, just like the other posts, guys like a lot of different figure types, I think they are more attracted by a woman's confidence, sensuality, and if she makes HIM feel confident and good about himself.
Hey, when my X cheated on me it was with a woman who is 4 inches shorter than I and must weigh 10 lbs more, pannus, HUGE butt, flat chest and all. There I was tolerating his constant criticism and I'm 5'4" and have weighed 115 most of my adult life and have been likened to a petite Victoria's Secret model. Sheesh, couldn't he have at least cheated with a 20 yr old blonde? Still am mystified why he's still with her. He's 47, very good looking, in shape, and rich. Could have his pick of the single women in town (well, at least the ones who don't know how nuts he is). It goes to show you, it's more about how he feels when he's with you, not looks. This woman is very manipulative, guys fall for her all the time. She only goes for unavailable men, those that are currently in another relationship. What they fall for is she knows how to make a guy feel like he's the center of the universe, basically worships him, plays like she's a damsel in distress so he can rescue her. Yuck. All the men I've attracted since my divorce are into independant, confident, smart women.
Even though I've gained 5 lbs since meeting M, who is pretty much an average 49 yr old American male, he still acts like he's won the lottery every time he looks at me. After having my daughter at age 43, my waist never came back and I'll always have a lower belly bulge, stretch marks to my navel, and lets not describe what my breasts look like when the suspension bridge bra comes off. But he makes me feel so comfortable with my flaws, I have no problem being naked in front of him. Sure, he's got his own insecurities and appreciates that I am not judgmental about his flaws.
Men obviously find you attractive, give yourself a break. Heck, you get attention from much younger guys, enjoy the fun.