well, update ahoy...

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Registered: 08-20-2004
well, update ahoy...
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Tue, 03-21-2006 - 9:01pm

I posted this on the DASP board too, but I wanted to update and save everyone the trouble of swiching between the boards.

Here's the part where the bubble gets popped. MM and I talked on the phone last night and I can already tell I will have no chemistry with this guy. Only more proof to me that people who seem amazing in IM are not all they appear. Strangly though, I am fighting an urge to set him up with my cousin who I feel like would be perfect for him. I won't though--cause how tacky would that be!? Sorry, I do think they would get along well, though! :S

I do like him as a person, and I am still open and probably going to go out with him for our April 1st date--just so I can be sure. But I am being very careful with his feelings now, so that he understands that I am not in a committed relationship to him whatsoever. I openly told him that if he doesn't want another friend, please let me know, because I don't want to waste his time when he could be looking elsewhere. I feel really bad because he has sent me two emails while I was at school about how he thought he sounded dumb on the phone, etc, etc. Which he didn't, he just isn't on the same level of life as I am. And what happened to my self-confident guy? :( I am going to address these tactfully tonight, too. I really hate this part, but I don't want to string any overly hopeful guys along, either.

Meanwhile I have two other irons in the fire, and one of them is supposed to call me tonight. He looks super hot in his pic, but then again, it's just a picture. The other I have just exchanged two emails with, so we'll see if that goes anywhere either. Who knows. I am just going with the flow for now.

:)
--snow

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 4:51am

That is okay, Snow. The important thing is that you are not so desparate for company or a relationship that you are making sure you are finding the right one for you.

If you really don't think you would like him then I would not see him.

I also do not think honesty is the best policy when rejecting a guy - they always take it so personally and become so bitter. I would say I was very busy with my child and have put my dating life on hold. End of story - he's out of there. Plus since you do have a child you always want the safest way out.

And no I would not try to set him up with my cousin - although she could contact him online.

Yes - the IM thing can be a whole method of communication in itself - so can email. So don't feel bad - you had fun with this and are exploring what you want and putting your needs first - all very good stuff!!!!!

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