Well, we made it thru unscathed so far -
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Well, we made it thru unscathed so far -
| Mon, 11-26-2007 - 1:33pm |
no major drama from X. He left one sad sounding, sane sounding, message
| Mon, 11-26-2007 - 1:33pm |
no major drama from X. He left one sad sounding, sane sounding, message
From a lot of your posts, your situation sounds a lot like mine!!!!
I dont let X have unsupervised visits with my kids.
First, I caught him cheating on me.
Two days later he took my boys (not his bio kids) to my neighbors, told them he was leaving, and taking their sisters (his bio kids) and leaving. He told them its not their fault and he loves them. He then dragged them inside kicking and screaming. Meanwhile my gram (who we lived with) locked all the doors. My neighbor (very close friends) had her daughter in law watch the boys and followed him to my house. I was out running errands, my neighbor called, frantic. Saying he was trying to take the girls. The police came, made him leave....
He has done the email game with me, like yours has with you. Pretending he didn't get my responses to NO unsupervised contact until the kids therapist says so. its maddening, how STUPID he is when he does his "I'm the victim, you wont let me see the kids" and "you never said that" or just pretending I never responded.
Tonight, he came to the boys appointment and I sat in the waiting room. She came out and he left. she looked at me and said "he needs a LOT of work"
VALIDATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!
6 1/2 years of CRAP from him and in ONE HOUR she saw all of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
she agrees to no unsupervised contact until he attends some therapy sessions, we will attend together, he will attend alone and sometimes with the boys. She 100% agrees with me on whats best for the kids, and I feel so happy!!!!
FINALLY, I HAVE PROFESSIONALS that will tell him what I have been telling him. I AM A GOOD PARENT AND HE SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ON TOP OF THE WORLD
Liz
That sounds like as safe, sane course of action.
I applaud you for your grace under fire!
~s~