Well, the weeked is just about here
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| Thu, 03-22-2007 - 11:54am |
and he hasn't called to set up anything. I am confused by men at this point. I have plans on Saturday, pretty much all day. I play on a women's city dart team. We play other cities throughout the state about 8 times a year (always on a Saturday afternoon and never more than one match a month). The match starts at 2:00 and will probably last until about 6:30 or so. We will probably hang out (get together with the men's team) and do something after the match.
No definite plans for tomorrow but will probably end up meeting some girls for drinks after dropping off the kids. I have plenty to keep me busy so I guess I will be fine.
I am somewhat disappointed in the constant in dissappearance and reappearance of men. I don't quite understand it. I'm not dying to have some long term committed relationship. Just some guys to spend time with...
Yikes!!! Who knew this would be so hard. I am not having fun dating. I just want a guy to do what they say and be active. OK. Enough from me. I'm somewhat irritated. I really would like some male companionship.
Any suggestions would be good. I know there is nothing wrong with me. I have no trouble meeting guys, but they seem to slip on and off the radar at random. Not sure what the deal is.
Anyhow if this guy doesn't call me this week and set up something (not that I have time now other than Sunday afternoon) I won't take his calls anymore. If you are too busy to be bothered, then don't call in the first place. GRRRRR!!!!!!
Priscilla

I feel you on this point and frustrations. I always recommend this book "How To Get A Date Worth Keeping" by Henry Cloud. I just felt very encouraged after reading that book...(honestly the most recent book i read wasn't necessarily encouraging... "He's just not that into you", but it was still a good read). The "Hot To" book covers pointers for meeting new guys as well as insightful info on dating and how to keep a fresh perspective. My dating view points were completely turned around and I started having fun (even amidst the battle zone of dating...lol).
One attitude that helps me is ~living in the moment~. Each new encounter is a learning experience even if he turns out to be a looser or dissappears. I've practiced my social skills, I learned a little more about myself, learned a little more about what makes me happy, whole and shining. And if he disappears, then I've learned a little more about what I don't want... but either way, I'm still growing and becoming the person I'm meant to be. It's all good!!!
Stick around and let us know if you meet any new fellows at the dart match this weekend. ;-)
Loonybunny
Oh. MY. GAWD> welcome to my world!!!
Dating isn't fun, and yet, there's only one way to not spend the rest of your life alone.
I have found for me, the trick is to genuinely be busy- things I wouldn't cancel no matter WHO called because I want to do them. That's when they call- and usually more than one of them.
I'm getting ready to post in a second about a guy, we'll see what you all think.
Meanwhile, as much as it sucks, chin up and keep on keepin on! As West says, men are a renewable resource, and there are ALWAYS more where the last one came from. Just start having fun for you, and the men will follow suit.
Moody, who's been "dated out" more than once
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I agree. Men are a renewable and there is a never ending supply of them. I just would like someone that is reliable. I have been on numerous dates and not only have none of them turned into a second date. There is only one that I have even been remotely interested in dating again. I am busy and have very little "going out" time. I can fill that time easily. The times when I'm lonely are the weeknights after my children are in bed. Since they are young, after 8:00 I am always alone but can't get out to do anything. It is somewhat frustrating that I can't seem to do anything about it. Of course any of my single mom friends are usually at home with their little ones in bed as well.
Just feeling frustrated. Thanks for the kind words. I would never change my plans for some guy (EVER) even if I was just going to a friend's to hang out. I don't dump my girlfriends for a guy. My friends will be there long after some guy is gone. I know I can count on them.
OK over the pity party. I guess I'll indulge in some wine after soccer practice tonight.
Priscilla
I know I know - totally how you feel. YES we are lonely on weeknights when the kids go to bed early but NO we cannot make any type of social plans to get out of the house on a regular basis. Like take a class, participate in team sports, just do stuff, etc. I so know how that feels. It is like a double whammy for sure.
And I know how you feel frustrated that they don't call and just want to be regular on a regular basis. Went through that a lot myself when I was doing a lot of online dating. I think our high-tech digital fast-paced world makes relationships a challenge. Dating has changed.
As much as I would like, I don't have an answer for you.
I guess I just buried myself in my own life with my interests and my son - to the point that I have no expectations. It is easier on my nerves. I guess I just told myself that I have my whole life to meet someone - there is no rush and I might as well enjoy singlehood to the full advantage.
Fortunately for me I work out so much that I can't keep my eyes open much past 9 or 10 so I do feel less lonely at night. And Saturday nights are spent filling water bottles and getting stuff ready for a really long bike ride on Sunday - and then go to bed early.
But there is a hint of hope. I feel that in no other time have we had the knowledge to find the right person - and we have this board to all talk and compare stories. And with so many activities in every day life we have more of a chance of meeting the right person. So you just have to have patience and faith.
Look at Taina's story - she might have met someone great through her and her daughter's interests. And when you read her writing you know she knows how to spot a good one.
If they are not calling on a regular basis, you don't want them - so be glad you are not burdened with the wrong one for now.