Went to Counseling Yesterday
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| Wed, 05-09-2007 - 10:12am |
Shane attended with me. It went well. The counselor got him talking about his feelings...about me, about our marriage and what has happened to us. She talked to us about a structured separation meaning, no getting legal advice without consulting the other person, no dating anyone else, no excessive amounts of money spent without consulting the other person, if we get together to have sex we need to keep in mind that it does NOT mean we are together again but instead finding a way to connect, and we should find time to spend together without the kids in an environment that is fun.
We agreed to those terms. Also, because he is overly critical of me and she noticed that, she suggested we come up with something he can say to me if I begin to run off at the mouth. I can also say something to him when he begins to get rude.
Gentle reminders...nothing harsh.
Anyway, I am happy with how it turned out. Nothing new to report, just glad it is okay and that we managed to get thru it.
~Mel~

That's great Mel. It sounds like the session went VERY well. Big (((((HUGS))))) to you as you go through this!
Jennifer
I like her rules. This sounds productive - keep us posted.
How do you feel Shane reacted to all of this?
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I think it is good for you to get an outsider's point of view. It seems that will be good for you and in your best interest.
HUGS! I am sorry he can't be more positive - that must feel very hurtful for you!
I don't think this habit is changeable, but again - I don't know the back story. You don't need that! I don't know if that is the same guy you were describing as "perfect". You may think he is perfect, since he is pointing out all of the imperfections in you. Don't fall for that trap.
Good luck!
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