West! (step-parenting)

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West! (step-parenting)
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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 9:25pm

My bf and I had our second premarital counseling session this week.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 05-03-2006 - 9:43pm

Wow, Jennie, this is a great update. Thanks for thinking of me and my DS - I will remember this to tell his dad for sure. DS has gotten better at communicating his feelings - and I think that this is because he sees that he has nothing to lose - before when he had the Disney Dad all to himself he never wanted to make a wave. But he is much better at telling me like you point out - and his dad needs to learn to be more proactive on finding out what is in DS's head and reassuring him.

The trouble is that his dad is more into trying to impress the new gf and her son. But I think that is a mistake - although I have to keep out of it unless asked for my opinion.

At any rate - that is so so super that you two have such a strong relationship inventory - and your strengths are all of the biggies. The financial thing and communication are so strong. The leisure activities would be very important to me. So that is good for you. I think that you two are great at being responsible, realistic and goal setting from what you have written so far - your to do list was very good the other day about all you have to do to accomplish your goals.

And the parenting and role model stuff can be discussed and worked out now as I am sure you are already doing. It seems to be good stuff to talk about that you probably just hadn't gotten to yet - too busy with the first priorities I am sure.

I wish everyone had to go through such counseling for marriage - it would sure help with the incompatibility stats.

This is such a good lesson for us all. Keep the momentum!!

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