What is acceptable?

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Registered: 10-07-2005
What is acceptable?
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Tue, 07-08-2008 - 6:48pm

When you're in a relationship- not JUST dating a guy, how often do you EXPECT contact?


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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 7:17pm

Snail mail...lol! I think that way of corresponding ended with my gramma's time!

~Pacific~
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Registered: 11-25-2007
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 7:20pm

good question

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 07-06-2008
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 7:39pm
I like the idea of doing a "daily check in" because that way you get a chance to talk to them every day and find out what their range of emotion is - how
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 07-08-2008 - 10:53pm

I want someone that I want to talk to and email during the day. I think if it is a serious relationship you should speak daily - but if you go a day or two without it because one or the other is busy - that is okay and no one freaks - but it is not usually the norm.

The "want someone that I want to talk to" is the key for me.

MA liked talking/emailing - but he was so one way street and would launch into huge lectures that he would wear me out and I would not want to talk to him and I would shut off his chat windows.

I have to find someone who is fun to talk to.

Let me tell you - it was NOT my son's football coach - who is married anyway. This poor man is like one of those Burt Reynold's types - instead of brains they gave him testosterone and he thinks being a man makes him special. He was trying to tell ME that I should not run with my son because I will make him slow - he has no clue what I do. AND he said that riding a bike makes him fat because he eats too much afterwards. Can you tell I am annoyed. If I had to talk to HIM everyday I would cry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!!

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 12:08am

Depends on the stage of the relationship. In the beginning I expect regular, if not daily contact. Otherwise, I figure the guy just is not that into me. It can be e-mail or phone or in person. I don't expect daily in person contact though, that would get on my nerves and seem clingy. Over time it is natural for the less personal contact- phone/e-mail, to lessen, and face to face contact to increase. For me, the kid schedule still dictates a lot of my contact with M as well as his out of town for work issues and my class schedule. Neither of us gets insecure if we don't manage to connect for a couple of days. It is rare for it to be more than a couple of days.

QB

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Registered: 07-08-2008
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 12:32am

Hello!!!


With my BF and I we try to talk everyday....With our work schedules its not that easy, but we do text several times a day...I work as a nurse on the night shift and he is a pilot for an air ambulance company he has a rotating schedule, and to top it off we are in a LDR....


I like hearing his voice at least once a day...But just getting those little messages help too.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 1:53am

If it is a newly dating thing? Like "seeing each other" but only a few times so far. Then i would say a phone call or email 3X

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 9:21am

Hmmmmmmm.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:05am

Some form of contact daily for me.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:13am

Good question.

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