what age.

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what age.
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Mon, 08-18-2008 - 3:48pm
do you let your kids date? I let my daughter have a bf when she turned 11. she is 12 now.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
In reply to: carrie2009
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 3:57pm
Both of my duaghters could date once they were in high school.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
In reply to: carrie2009
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 3:59pm

My boys won't date until they are at least 25. lol


I'm not sure- because they are both still at the point of saying "girls? Ewwwwwwwww" so I'm not invading that. ;-)


When it REALLY does become time? I will have to make that judgment call based on how each child is, if I think he would be mature enough or not. But I'd be very cautious of them having anyone they might call "girlfriend" when they are under 15- because I just don't think they would understand what a relationship even IS at that age.


I didn't date until I was in high school, and didn't have anyone I called "boyfriend" until I was in college. I think I skirted some big teen issues because I waited- so I will encourage my boys to wait, too. There's just no sense in trying to grow up too fast.


**edited to add that my boys are 10 and 8. The 10-yr old is coming up on 11 in a couple of months- and he won't be dating for a long, long time (he has cerebral palsy) so my parenting dealings with dating will probably start with my now-8-yr old... when he is MUCH older. In the meantime, I'm encouraging the "ewwww, girls" train of thought. lol



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Edited 8/18/2008 4:02 pm ET by shrimpychimps

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Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: carrie2009
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 4:02pm

DD15 had boyfriends starting in 6th grade, but they were 'school' things.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: carrie2009
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 4:09pm
My daughter is 12, has a bf, he is allowed to come here, sometimes she goes there also. I also allow her to go to the movies with him.
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Registered: 03-19-2008
In reply to: carrie2009
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 5:08pm

High school for both of mine. One was in 10th grade. The other 11th.

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Registered: 07-19-2008
In reply to: carrie2009
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 10:43pm

My daughter isn't allowed to date or move out until she's 40!!! LOL!


My son is very soically inept because of the autism/asperger's so I'm not counting on him dating until he's in college.


I tell my dd - "boys are gross" and my

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In reply to: carrie2009
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 6:05am
My eldest dd did not get a boyfriend until she had finished school (17.5)!
Boys adore my youngest dd because she is such a tomboy. Surely any girl who is a State soccer player & fantastic skateboarder is worth persuing! LOL She has always had boys interested in her (or jealous of her abilities!). She's called them boyfriends since she was little (4!), & in the last couple of years has had them in tears (I felt so bad, one is a lovely boy) when she's dumped them! Btw she's 12 nearly 13 ;o) Like Moon however even though they were called "boyfriends" they hung out in groups & just had fun. I'm sure she'd thump one if they tried to kiss her! LOL
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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: carrie2009
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 8:33am

My youngest dd is 11 and I really think she should stay a child and enjoy that for as long as possible!!

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Registered: 06-04-2004
In reply to: carrie2009
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 9:09am
ITA, Isysmoon!!!!!!! Kids need to be kids as long as they are still KIDS- and too young to really think/operate as adults. There is PLENTY of time for living life as an adult, doing adult things. I'm okay with 'dating' in mixed groups as teens, but not sure about all the boy-crazy chasing stuff. Or getting so serious that they start talking marriage before they're even out of high school.

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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In reply to: carrie2009
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 9:15am

I pray that my DD 10 continues to have so many goals that don't involve boys

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